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jenny lucas Online
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Fri Jan 25, 2019 12:30 pm
Stephen - bullies smell fear in their victims!
it is Beyond outrageous that this man actually comes to your home.
Please make a list of all the thigns he's said and done to you (take a photo of him at your door if he comes again). record all his phone calls.
Also, I would say this is harassment - ???? if so, that's criminal.
I do understand about hating confrontation - I hated it too.....but we HAVE to stand up for ourselves.
I finally learnt to do this when I changed jobs and ended up in a place run by 'bullies' and it was either stand up for myself or run away. I finally learn the former!
I would strongly urge you take some assertiveness classes - they will teach you techniques for dealing with bullies like this appalling man.
bullies don't people who stand up for themselves!
The great thing about becoming assertive is that the more you do it the less frightening it is. This man's anger and disapproval of you (ie, because you are not giving in to him and doing what he wants) will become less and less frightening - and more and more 'outrageous' in that you will simply get ANGRY with him.
anger is a WONDERFUL freedom for those of us who were raised never to 'let anger out' (With me, only my mum was 'allowed' to be angry!) - it's incredibly liberating to just let rip and tell others what you think of them! The adrenaline rush gives you the 'power' to be angry. (Obvously, pick your targets - they must 'desreve' anger - as this dreadful man does)
Please don't label yourself a 'wimp' - so many men do, but they aren't, they are just 'programmed' never to show their 'righteous anger' at injustice.