I suspect this person has BPD - how to cut contact?

[Melly1]

Personally I’d tell him otherwise he will keep trying to contact you and harbour hope you might get back together. Just be strong and end the communication before he has a chance to try and emotionally blackmail you.

Melly1

[Helen_2106]

It’s done. Thanks for your advice. I just pointed out to him that the situation isn’t making either of us happy. If it was this much hard work before we even met then I guess it would be a lot worse in person.

I feel relieved. It’s really unpleasant walking on eggshells when someone perceives everything as a slight to them and you literally can’t win. I hope he gets some sort of help. A previous poster is right though - we are all indeed responsible for our own happiness.