Hi I've been on here before and explained that I'm my Mums carer, she is housebound and in over 20 years has seen her brother 4x and he lives 25 minutes away! She only has me really as she wont go to a day centre or groups etc.
Anyway, we have the next door neighbour who keeps coming round and offloading all her problems onto my Mum and me. the neighbour is in her late 70s and is a carer herself and is wanting her brother to go into a home, he has some type of dementia. She will come round for maybe 3 hours at a time and be going on about it all in great depth. I cant cope with the neighbour and I busy myself or try to change the subject etc. However, she just talks over you. Would it be unreasonable of me to suggest that she goes for counselling? or would you just go out/ make yourself scarce? My Mum can cope with her better than me. Its got so bad that I don't like bringing the bin in at the same time as her because she tries to collar me and wont stop talking.
My Mums got a date for a hip replacement but she is at higher risk of having a stoke/heart attack because she has high blood pressure and a bad heart and a lump in her neck. She still wants it done, so its upto her but I cant stop worrying about it. She also been poorly with cellulitis recently as well.Its the constant worry thats getting me down really.She having an epidural with sedation and the G.P has told me not to worry as no one knows at this point what will happen etc.
Anyway, we have the next door neighbour who keeps coming round and offloading all her problems onto my Mum and me. the neighbour is in her late 70s and is a carer herself and is wanting her brother to go into a home, he has some type of dementia. She will come round for maybe 3 hours at a time and be going on about it all in great depth. I cant cope with the neighbour and I busy myself or try to change the subject etc. However, she just talks over you. Would it be unreasonable of me to suggest that she goes for counselling? or would you just go out/ make yourself scarce? My Mum can cope with her better than me. Its got so bad that I don't like bringing the bin in at the same time as her because she tries to collar me and wont stop talking.
My Mums got a date for a hip replacement but she is at higher risk of having a stoke/heart attack because she has high blood pressure and a bad heart and a lump in her neck. She still wants it done, so its upto her but I cant stop worrying about it. She also been poorly with cellulitis recently as well.Its the constant worry thats getting me down really.She having an epidural with sedation and the G.P has told me not to worry as no one knows at this point what will happen etc.