Hiya
15 years ago, my mum suffered an brain aneurism which haemorrhaged, resulting in a stroke as well as brain damage. As well as being left with some physical disabilities, it's the mental damage which I struggle with the most.
The part of mums brain that was effected was the frontal lobes, which I am told makes you the person you are, personality, feelings, motivation etc. Mum is a totally different person. For most people, this is very difficult to understand. The 'shell' of my mum remains, but it is like I lost her all them years ago. Iv always managed to deal with this the best I can, turns out, I wasn't dealing with it at all and I'm struggling more than I ever have.
Think it has been since I have had my own family and mums issues have added a lot of extra pressure.
Imagine, having a caring, loving, nurturing, kind etc mum. Then, one day, she gets sick and everything you have ever known is gone. Replaced by someone who looks like her, but is snappy, shows no emotion, no happy, sad, LOVE. Someone who relies heavily on you for everything (tough at 15 years old), expects the world with little consideration for her own child, laughs when you cry because they have no idea what else to do. Has no filter, so what thoughts go into her head, immediately come out of her mouth, no matter how humiliating for you, especially to complete strangers.
I could go on!
I suppose I wanted to put myself out there and hopefully hear from people that are dealing with the same kind of things. Caring for brain injury is very lonely! How do others cope? Are there other people out there that feel this way?
There is a lot of anger and resentment. I'd be SOOOOOO grateful for some advice.
Thank you in advance
15 years ago, my mum suffered an brain aneurism which haemorrhaged, resulting in a stroke as well as brain damage. As well as being left with some physical disabilities, it's the mental damage which I struggle with the most.
The part of mums brain that was effected was the frontal lobes, which I am told makes you the person you are, personality, feelings, motivation etc. Mum is a totally different person. For most people, this is very difficult to understand. The 'shell' of my mum remains, but it is like I lost her all them years ago. Iv always managed to deal with this the best I can, turns out, I wasn't dealing with it at all and I'm struggling more than I ever have.
Think it has been since I have had my own family and mums issues have added a lot of extra pressure.
Imagine, having a caring, loving, nurturing, kind etc mum. Then, one day, she gets sick and everything you have ever known is gone. Replaced by someone who looks like her, but is snappy, shows no emotion, no happy, sad, LOVE. Someone who relies heavily on you for everything (tough at 15 years old), expects the world with little consideration for her own child, laughs when you cry because they have no idea what else to do. Has no filter, so what thoughts go into her head, immediately come out of her mouth, no matter how humiliating for you, especially to complete strangers.
I could go on!
I suppose I wanted to put myself out there and hopefully hear from people that are dealing with the same kind of things. Caring for brain injury is very lonely! How do others cope? Are there other people out there that feel this way?
There is a lot of anger and resentment. I'd be SOOOOOO grateful for some advice.
Thank you in advance

