Any advice on copeing with this would be very gratefully received. Basically my husband is deaf to certain tones, not volume, although when I resort to really shouting (like screaming) he hears me. In other words he can hear some people, but not others, and he cannot hear me very often at all, as I have "one of those voices" unfortunately. He blames me a lot, saying I dont speak properly, or I mumble, or I'm not facing him when I speak, or the tv is on, or the radio, or the washing machine, or tap running. This causes a lot of friction, and its getting much worse, makeing me more and more unhappy. He accuses me of saying things I've not said, or of not telling him something, or of telling him something different to what I actually said. He often accuses me of using foul language, when he's heard something entirely different. I hardly ever swear at all. Living with it every day is very distressing, especially if it happens when I am driving the car. I am at a loss as to how to deal with this, and feel its making me ill because of the arguments. I really dont know where my lovely man has gone.
For years he was in denial there was anything at all wrong with him, but he had the tests, and got the hospital hearing aids, but he says they do nothing because its not volume. However, he often does not hear someone at the door, or the telephone, and this can be dangerous as I found out when I shut myself out one day. He just couldnt hear me at the door.
He still says he can hear the telephone perfectly well, and denies needing any further help. There must be ways I can make this better. I just wish I knew what they were.
For years he was in denial there was anything at all wrong with him, but he had the tests, and got the hospital hearing aids, but he says they do nothing because its not volume. However, he often does not hear someone at the door, or the telephone, and this can be dangerous as I found out when I shut myself out one day. He just couldnt hear me at the door.
He still says he can hear the telephone perfectly well, and denies needing any further help. There must be ways I can make this better. I just wish I knew what they were.