Hi,
I'm new here. I have been a carer for my mum for the past 11 years now, I'm going to be 23 next month and graduated from university last year, I have been working full time for about 6 months now and really need to find out what more support I can get for my mum, she has had a history of mental illness and is currently on anti depressants, she is agoraphobic and hasn't left the house for several years now (about 6/7, I can't remember the last time she left the house), she has a occupational therapist (she did have one about 6 months ago but she left and mum got discharged so I had to go through the whole referral process again
). I'm not sure exactly who else she is under, she has a psychiatrist who visits every 3 months (her last appointment got messed up and double booked but he didn't turn up to either! again more things to try and sort out) but there is no CPN.
I just don't know where else to go to get help, I saw our doctor last week and he basically said she is under the care of the mental health team now, I told him how much I am struggling and it is impacting my work and personal life and he offered me sleeping tablets and anti depressants ( which I didn't want) he did tell me counselling might help, I have contacted where I used to go to but its is going to be a few weeks before I might be able to get an appointment.
Is there anything else or anyone I could contact? I have spoken to rethink and they offered some guidance but it is difficult because mum doesn't go out she cant access as much support. I had asked about short term supported living/rehabilitation but Mum wouldn't go there voluntarily and she isn't in as bad a place as when she was last sectioned. Although I say that in one way she is as she takes no personal care of herself whatsoever, she is missing a lot of her teeth (a long time ago she suffered from eating disorders and had a lot of dental work afterwards, she has taken no care of her teeth whatsoever and that prevents her from eating proper solid foods).
I just feel like she needs a big motivational boost but after 11 years of caring for her and hoping things will change I really don't feel like I can do it, to be honest I don't think I want to any more. Really I want (need!) to move out this year as I am so up and down at the moment it is effecting how I am feeling and my concentration at work.
Are there any other avenues I can try?
Thanks
Ant
I'm new here. I have been a carer for my mum for the past 11 years now, I'm going to be 23 next month and graduated from university last year, I have been working full time for about 6 months now and really need to find out what more support I can get for my mum, she has had a history of mental illness and is currently on anti depressants, she is agoraphobic and hasn't left the house for several years now (about 6/7, I can't remember the last time she left the house), she has a occupational therapist (she did have one about 6 months ago but she left and mum got discharged so I had to go through the whole referral process again

I just don't know where else to go to get help, I saw our doctor last week and he basically said she is under the care of the mental health team now, I told him how much I am struggling and it is impacting my work and personal life and he offered me sleeping tablets and anti depressants ( which I didn't want) he did tell me counselling might help, I have contacted where I used to go to but its is going to be a few weeks before I might be able to get an appointment.
Is there anything else or anyone I could contact? I have spoken to rethink and they offered some guidance but it is difficult because mum doesn't go out she cant access as much support. I had asked about short term supported living/rehabilitation but Mum wouldn't go there voluntarily and she isn't in as bad a place as when she was last sectioned. Although I say that in one way she is as she takes no personal care of herself whatsoever, she is missing a lot of her teeth (a long time ago she suffered from eating disorders and had a lot of dental work afterwards, she has taken no care of her teeth whatsoever and that prevents her from eating proper solid foods).
I just feel like she needs a big motivational boost but after 11 years of caring for her and hoping things will change I really don't feel like I can do it, to be honest I don't think I want to any more. Really I want (need!) to move out this year as I am so up and down at the moment it is effecting how I am feeling and my concentration at work.
Are there any other avenues I can try?
Thanks
Ant