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Sat Sep 25, 2021 3:48 am
My fiance and I have recently gotten engaged.
Over the last 3 months, he has spiralled into a deep and dark depression. He wants to leave and go home but promises that he still loves me. He wants to live a life of solitude but cannot go a few hours without touching me or holding my hand.
I am desperately trying to be an understanding and supportive pillar that takes all of his depressive behaviour unpersonally but recently, it is proving to be very hard. He is lost in himself entirely and seemingly unwilling to try and repair anything. He is trying to improve his mental health. He's taking anti-depressants and has recently upped his dosage. He's seeing a therapist and having very open discussions with his family and myself however, I am now beginning to suffer myself. I am an anxious wreck. I have terrible fear that I shall come home and he shall be gone, which is also fuelled by his mother goading him to come home.
I am grieving a relationship that was so utterly perfect and beautiful 3 months ago and is seemingly slipping away from me through no fault of our own. How do I continue to support someone when every time they go to ask me a question that I know is going to be significant, I am throwing up in my mouth through anxiety? Has anyone else ever experienced this or something similar with their partner and if so, how did you manage to help them and overcome your own worries and fears about your relationship?
I am desperate to remind him that fundamentally, we are an extremely good couple and when he isn't suffering, we are so happy but he cannot see it passed the thick fog that depression has 'gifted' him with. Any ideas welcome.
Over the last 3 months, he has spiralled into a deep and dark depression. He wants to leave and go home but promises that he still loves me. He wants to live a life of solitude but cannot go a few hours without touching me or holding my hand.
I am desperately trying to be an understanding and supportive pillar that takes all of his depressive behaviour unpersonally but recently, it is proving to be very hard. He is lost in himself entirely and seemingly unwilling to try and repair anything. He is trying to improve his mental health. He's taking anti-depressants and has recently upped his dosage. He's seeing a therapist and having very open discussions with his family and myself however, I am now beginning to suffer myself. I am an anxious wreck. I have terrible fear that I shall come home and he shall be gone, which is also fuelled by his mother goading him to come home.
I am grieving a relationship that was so utterly perfect and beautiful 3 months ago and is seemingly slipping away from me through no fault of our own. How do I continue to support someone when every time they go to ask me a question that I know is going to be significant, I am throwing up in my mouth through anxiety? Has anyone else ever experienced this or something similar with their partner and if so, how did you manage to help them and overcome your own worries and fears about your relationship?
I am desperate to remind him that fundamentally, we are an extremely good couple and when he isn't suffering, we are so happy but he cannot see it passed the thick fog that depression has 'gifted' him with. Any ideas welcome.
