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I'm scared of my son - Carers UK Forum

I'm scared of my son

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Hi sorry I always seem to be rambling on here now but at the moment my son is having a psychotic episode. He had a really good day yesterday and I began to feel things were improving . This morning while he was asleep my husband and I went for a walk and were in good spirits . When we got back he was out of bed and seemed fine talking normally I made him some lunch and the out of the blue he punched his leg hard. I was so shocked I didn't know how to respond and then 10 minutes later he did it again when I asked what was wrong he didn't answer the he punched himself over and over in the face. Then he ran upstairs screaming that he hated us all, hated his life and was going to kill himself . I rang the crisis Team in tears to be asked "well I don't know what you want us to do " . I put the phone down and rang my gp who has just been round to see him she has gone now to try and contact his psychiatrist but it's proving difficult . I have never in my life felt so alone , I just want him to receive the help he needs
Debra I'm so sorry you are going through this. If your son has threatened to kill himself then he should be considered to be 'a danger to himself' which should allow the psychiatrists (if and when they get their collective fingers out) to section and medicate him.

I really had to jump through hoops to get my son treatment. One time I talked him into coming with me to the psychiatric hospital (not A&E) and more or less dumped him on them. Another time the police persuaded him to leave my house, as they had greater powers to act if he was kicking off in a public place rather than in my home.

He could be amazingly, and annoyingly, lucid when confronted with health professionals. He even tried to persuade them that it was me who needed help.

Every call to the police - and I made many, I assure you! - is logged and they can build up a case for classing your son as vulnerable, although I know from an earlier post that you have strong reasons not to involve them.

I really hope this is resolved quickly for you.
Debby, the system is rubbish! In order to get him the help he really needs, it sounds like he needs an assessment under the mental health act, and the only way you are going to get that is to get the crisis team out so they can escort him to hospital. I know you have tried, but if you call the police and say you are worried for his safety, as he is threatening to kill himself, then ring the crisis team and tell them the police are on their way, they should come out. It has worked for me a couple of times when I have been really desperate to get some help x
Thank you both for your support my gp came to see him she was lovely and felt he needed to be admitted. However when she spoke to his psychiatrist he didn't want to admit him as it might upset him !! Unbelievable !!! He suggested promazine twice a day as his plan but my son is refusing to take it so that's the plan out of the window ! I will get the police if I need to he is much calmer at the moment although I feel like I'm walking on eggshells
Debra so sorry to hear what you and your son are going through. When the situation is calmer you may find this facebook group interesting. It is for AMHPs who are the main frontline people for crisis mental health issues and I have found it informative on what and why they do and don't do some things. Just search for Masked AMHP on facebook.
I wish I could be of more immediate and practical help. My heart goes out to you all xx