Hi all,
I have not been here for along while, but just need to vent, my husband has had severe anxiety, severe depression and is agoraphobic he also tried to commit suicide 2 years ago, which I managed to stop,we have been through a rollercoaster with Mental Health support or lack there of !. We were told he was in a crisis and not suitable for counselling, but not "ill" enough to be admitted here are phone numbers if he tries to commit suicide again, take these tablets goodbye !.
So we coped alone, no follow ups and it took me complaining to get a review meds changed and again sent away. last February I again complained and he was reviewed again , we had an apology and new meds given referred to CBT to see if he could cope with it, then Covid happened, so nothing since, as he needs face to face as he just puts the phone down if he can not cope.
He lost his beloved job to redundancy and not been able to cope at all, he then only got temp jobs and finally accepted he could not work as his mental health spiralled , so on ESA joint income related, so its tough , my health then got worse and I lost my job I have ? MS diagnosed with CFS and fibromyalgia, awaiting other diagnosis, I usually cope really well, I was an Auxiliary Nurse and HCA for over 20 years, but my fatigues is high and I struggle daily at the moment, I like most of you deal with day to day stuff, bills shopping etc, with no support from my husband, he has again withdrawn, not wanting to interact, wash wants to sleep a lot, all his normal signs, we are trying to find a new GP, I just don't know what to do next, he did go to Andys Man Club, which is great, but he now has a ? heart issue and has been advised not to go out unless he really has too, and he just can't cope with going out at the moment.
I feel we are on a wheel going nowhere, he just seems to be in a constant down and I feel I have ^lost" him. I also feel I am losing myself as everything has to be planned around his care etc, I sound selfish but I really am not. It's our 25th Wedding anniversary in April, and I would just love to be able to help him more.
I have not been here for along while, but just need to vent, my husband has had severe anxiety, severe depression and is agoraphobic he also tried to commit suicide 2 years ago, which I managed to stop,we have been through a rollercoaster with Mental Health support or lack there of !. We were told he was in a crisis and not suitable for counselling, but not "ill" enough to be admitted here are phone numbers if he tries to commit suicide again, take these tablets goodbye !.
So we coped alone, no follow ups and it took me complaining to get a review meds changed and again sent away. last February I again complained and he was reviewed again , we had an apology and new meds given referred to CBT to see if he could cope with it, then Covid happened, so nothing since, as he needs face to face as he just puts the phone down if he can not cope.
He lost his beloved job to redundancy and not been able to cope at all, he then only got temp jobs and finally accepted he could not work as his mental health spiralled , so on ESA joint income related, so its tough , my health then got worse and I lost my job I have ? MS diagnosed with CFS and fibromyalgia, awaiting other diagnosis, I usually cope really well, I was an Auxiliary Nurse and HCA for over 20 years, but my fatigues is high and I struggle daily at the moment, I like most of you deal with day to day stuff, bills shopping etc, with no support from my husband, he has again withdrawn, not wanting to interact, wash wants to sleep a lot, all his normal signs, we are trying to find a new GP, I just don't know what to do next, he did go to Andys Man Club, which is great, but he now has a ? heart issue and has been advised not to go out unless he really has too, and he just can't cope with going out at the moment.
I feel we are on a wheel going nowhere, he just seems to be in a constant down and I feel I have ^lost" him. I also feel I am losing myself as everything has to be planned around his care etc, I sound selfish but I really am not. It's our 25th Wedding anniversary in April, and I would just love to be able to help him more.