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Mon Jul 31, 2017 4:19 pm
My son is 20. He started uni last year but was already showing signs of anxiety before he went. After his first month there he suddenly developed what the Gp thinks is IBS and it took over his life. He started having panic attacks and couldn't get to lectures. He avoided social situations. He started limiting his food intake and lost a lot of weight. I encouraged him to come home as often as possible but he does not get on with his step dad and doesn't want to be here. He did not submit any of his final first year work so will have to drop out. He has a flat for another 4 weeks but then has to leave.he plays in a band and music has been his life but now he's saying he wants to give it up. His friends don't understand and he gets frustrated and angry with everyone which makes it worse. I've told him he can come home but I know he doesn't want to. He says this isn't his home anymore. He does talk to me sometimes but less and less. He is wound up all the time.He refuses point blank to seek help. He saw a Gp after the first incident of ibs but has refused to go since. He will not accept counselling or medication. He has talked about suicide. He now has panic attacks about any situation where he feels he might not be able to access a loo. I have spoken to my Gp who is very supportive but because he has mental capacity there is little she can do. I know things will come to a head when he has to leave his flat. He will have no income - he used to work with disabled kids but gave it up (he was great at it too ) . I can't see him getting himself signed on for benefits. I'm worried he will become homeless or harm himself. I have decided all I can do is continue to love him , to offer him a roof over his head and to support him in whichever way he will accept it. I'm not sure what else to do but I hate seeing him like this as he is going downhill fast. Any advice ?
