I am carer for my wife I am also full time self employed,when she has episodes ,like today's one ,she goes wild and has tunnel vision all she can see is her need for another diazepam and will stop at nothing to get it,today I have had to lock the meds in the car and hide the keys,she even locked the front door and took the keys to stop me leaving and unplugged the phone when I tried to ring the crisis team,i did eventually call them,absolutely useless,not interested unless I took her to them,like her voluntarily going to mental health unit was ever going to happen!eventually I spoke to the duty Cpn whose advise was...wait for it...if it was me I would giver her another tablet!!!
Hmm, two thoughts - why can't she have a diazepam, and is that because they are addictive if taken too often?
Second thought, could she not be prescribed placebo diazapams? I've had 'mild' panic attacks in my time, and the main problem is that the panic attack gives one the very symptoms that cause one to panic! ie, they are 'self-caused'.
That said, of course, your wife's sound incredibly intense.
I get the feeling there's a lot more to her condition than 'just' panic attacks? )
You say you couldn't get her to agree to go to a mental health unit, yet she craves diazepam! Why does she accept taking diazepam, but doesn't accept that that is because she has a mental health condition??
If she does get a diazepam (ie, when she's allowed a dose on a non-addictive basis?), does it calm her down (and is that because of its intrinsic relaxant/calming properties, or because she 'relaxes' simply because she's got a diazepam inside her?)
How long has she been like this, and is there anything in particular that (a) caused it originally and (b) triggers the attacks now?
What does her therapist say she/you should do when she has such attacks?
Hoping that things can improve somehow. Caring for someone with MH can be incredibly hard. Sometimes impossible. Don't forget you're entitled to your own life....(!) does she recognise that right?