Hi there,
I'm new to the forums, so hope I am posting in the right place.
I work full time as a teacher and also care for my fiancée who is often not in control of her actions due to dissociation, and in this state she engages in various life-endangering behaviours. She is more unsafe than normal at the moment and I'm more worried than normal about going to work on Monday. There's always a risk, but normally it's balanced by the need to work to support myself financially and also her need to be independent. She is under the crisis team who are largely ineffective and will most likely ignore our desperate pleas to offer her an admission, as they seemingly prefer to wait until she dissociates and severely harms herself to stop saying anything other than "try to think positive, we can't be with you 24/7". Now I do understand their need to prioritise and try to avoid admission where possible, but equally shutting the door after the horses have bolted (or whatever the expression is) is getting old and also puts more and more strain on her physical health every time, as well as risking her life.
This is turning into a massive rant, sorry. I'm just reaching the end of my tether. I'm having physical symptoms which are almost certainly a consequence of the worry, and I can tell that she is also incredibly weary of this illness sucking up all the joy in her life. I let down my students every day because my head is at home worrying about her, and I let down my fiancée every day because my body is at work leaving her alone, frightened and unsafe at home. I've kept things going for years now, but I just don't know what to do anymore and could do with some ideas.
Thanks for reading this rather long post!
I'm new to the forums, so hope I am posting in the right place.
I work full time as a teacher and also care for my fiancée who is often not in control of her actions due to dissociation, and in this state she engages in various life-endangering behaviours. She is more unsafe than normal at the moment and I'm more worried than normal about going to work on Monday. There's always a risk, but normally it's balanced by the need to work to support myself financially and also her need to be independent. She is under the crisis team who are largely ineffective and will most likely ignore our desperate pleas to offer her an admission, as they seemingly prefer to wait until she dissociates and severely harms herself to stop saying anything other than "try to think positive, we can't be with you 24/7". Now I do understand their need to prioritise and try to avoid admission where possible, but equally shutting the door after the horses have bolted (or whatever the expression is) is getting old and also puts more and more strain on her physical health every time, as well as risking her life.
This is turning into a massive rant, sorry. I'm just reaching the end of my tether. I'm having physical symptoms which are almost certainly a consequence of the worry, and I can tell that she is also incredibly weary of this illness sucking up all the joy in her life. I let down my students every day because my head is at home worrying about her, and I let down my fiancée every day because my body is at work leaving her alone, frightened and unsafe at home. I've kept things going for years now, but I just don't know what to do anymore and could do with some ideas.
Thanks for reading this rather long post!