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Consequences of going to gp with an injury? - Carers UK Forum

Consequences of going to gp with an injury?

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Hi, hope all are ok
Dilemma, my daughter was v upset & angry the other night, I was sitting at kitchen table when she came through & was talking in a v agitated manner. Eventually she tried to grab something from my hand. I tried to stop her by putting my other arm up & across me. Anyway, she ended up somehow elbowing me hard in my chest.
I am still in pain, in fact increasingly so, small bruise, largish swelling. It’s painful to take a deep breath, cough, sneeze etc.
To my dilemma, if I go to gp what are possible consequences?
She is a young adult who has her own place, but is here “temporarily “, (months).

She is currently discharged from mental health services, but she does have a support worker from a local charity. I did email him saying things had got ‘physical ‘ , I am no longer prepared to be her carer & to look for support so she can go back to her own place.

Anyway, apologies for long post, grateful for any advice
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Karen,

The whole incident sounds very frightening.

For your own peace of mind you need to have check at the GP. I don't know what the repercussions would be for your daughter. Are you worried the GP might report her to the police?

Have you told your daughter and her support worker that she needs to move out? (Which sounds essential.)

Melly1
Melly1 wrote:
Sun Jun 14, 2020 8:25 pm
Karen,

The whole incident sounds very frightening.

For your own peace of mind you need to have check at the GP. I don't know what the repercussions would be for your daughter. Are you worried the GP might report her to the police?

Have you told your daughter and her support worker that she needs to move out? (Which sounds essential.)

Melly1
Hi & thanks.
I did eventually have a telephone conversation with gp, diagnosis, bruised ribs. Painful.
I have told both daughter & her support worker she must move out.
Thankfully her support worker has stepped up & finally various agencies getting involved. Social care been on the phone to check if I am ok & give advice about keeping safe. Also put a note on my address re possible ‘domestic abuse’, so if I call police they will be aware.Mental health service been informed.
She is still here, while things are put in place, but I feel we've made a start. I keep back door key, car key & phone with me at all times so I can, hopefully, get out when needed.

Thanks again
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She needs to go back to her own place today. She cannot stay with you any longer, it's not acceptable behaviour. Social care are not treating this seriously enough! Your home should be your place of safety, no one should drive you out. I would talk to the Police. She needs to understand that she has broken the law and is guilty of assault!
HI Karen,
glad it's just bruising and nothing worse - still very painful though, I'd imagine.

It's good other services are involved again, but I don't understand why she is still staying at your house if she has her own home to go to?

Melly1
My daughter is still here as, at the moment, she is mentally & physically unable to look after herself, (she has physical problems too, though not disabled because of them).

If I send her back to her flat without care & support that she is ‘happy’ with, she will only come back here & demand to be let in, at anytime of day or night, she has done it before. I know I could then call police etc but really can’t cope with that. Ok, she’s never going to be happy with support other than me, but if I feel confident that she is being cared for, then I can insist she goes.
My daughter’s father hasn’t seen her since she was 3 weeks old despite us knowing each other for 15 years. I’m telling you this so you can maybe understand my reasoning. Her feeling of abandonment is a huge part of her mental health problems., so I’m sure you can see why I’m so wary of just kicking her out.

Hopefully we can get to the point, soon, where I feel comfortable with her being alone. Then maybe I can focus a bit more on my father who is showing signs of dementia & after 10 years of my mam having it, believe me, I know the signs & so does he.

Thanks for replies, really appreciate it
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I just have being in this sort of "no win" situation, as I'm sure you do too.

I have a brain damaged son, and at one stage all four parents were entitled to highest DLA care too.
We lived midway between our parents, about 6 miles in each direction, and we had some pretty horrendous times trying to juggle everyone's needs.

Do you ever feel you can have some guaranteed time off?
You’ve obviously had / have a really difficult time, I’m sorry, must be extremely hard on you.

Yes, a no-win situation. There is just me. I have a sibling who lives abroad, so not much help.
Dad gave up driving 11 years ago, so took him & mam to every appointment, shopping etc. Mam died last August, Dad has deteriorated since. Lockdown couldn’t have happened at a worse time really.

In answer to your question, no, there is no time when I can be sure of being alone or uninterrupted. Daughter has problems with boundaries & will wake me at 3am sometimes, or argue with me then.
Even if I have a bath, which I can’t right now ‘cos boiler is broke, she will tell me not to take too long, or come in if necessary. It’s ridiculous I know but I now brush my teeth in the kitchen as she complains I take too long in the bathroom when I do it there.

Sorry, gone on a bit.
I am aware that until my situation changes my life cannot .
I don’t mind taking care of Dad, at least he’s grateful, most of the time. Daughter is always unhappy & angry & I get the brunt of it. Makes it that much harder.

Anyway, thanks for the reply, hope you are all safe & well as can be.
I would get really angry at anyone waking me up at 3am unless something drastic happened. It's your bathroom, why don't you lock the door and stay there as long as you want?
If she doesn't like it tell her to go back to her flat.
It's time for her to learn to be an adult.
My son is brain damaged, can't read, write, or do any maths, but he would never dream of behaving like this.

On an entirely different subject, why isn't your boiler working?
bowlingbun wrote:
Fri Jun 26, 2020 3:54 pm
I would get really angry at anyone waking me up at 3am unless something drastic happened. It's your bathroom, why don't you lock the door and stay there as long as you want?
If she doesn't like it tell her to go back to her flat.
It's time for her to learn to be an adult.
My son is brain damaged, can't read, write, or do any maths, but he would never dream of behaving like this.

On an entirely different subject, why isn't your boiler working?
Unfortunately her problems are such that when she needs something it overrides everything else. She has ‘autistic traits’, a personality disorder & suspected ADHD, among many others. On 2 year waiting list for full assessment.
She does have gastric & bowel problems so needs access to bathroom frequently. If I lock door she will bang on it, shout & scream,
I frequently tell her that if she’s not happy here then leave.

Boiler sprung a leak, just what I needed. Had to cancel 1st visit from plumber as it was short notice & daughter had a meltdown.had someone in Monday to look at it, it’s knackered. Still waiting for full quote though, so no hot water for a week, except for electric shower.

Thanks for asking
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