I was roaming around the Internet searching, rather loosely, on the general theme of 'how to deal with anger at having to care for someone you don't want to care for' (!) (yup, that's Jenny all right, as all you all know from my continual harping on it (and harping, and harping...)....when I came across this article.
It is, hopefully, only relevant to a very small fraction of anyone here, possibly even none at all (though personally I think I've read posts here from those whose parents are in that 'narcissistic' range) (but that's only my inexpert and biased opinion of course!).
I post the link if it's the slightest help to anyone here at all.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the ... or-elderly
If you don't like the subject, don't read it.
If you don't even like that I've posted the link, it will, today, be water off a duck's back to me as its a DD for me (Diazapam day) and I'm floating merrily away.
(everything is fine, just fine, utterly fine....float, float, float....)
If the mods don't like the link, then it will disappear anyway.
PS - FWIW I don't consider MIL narcissistic. Just mentally incapable now of saying thank you. Not her fault.
PPS - not sure whether to post this now. Scared. Then I think, look, if I've got to the point now where I'm scared of posting something controversial then this forum isn't the place for me, or anyone in situations similar to mine ('dark caring')
PPPS - oh, s*d it, I'll just post it anyway, and wait for the damn deluge.
It is, hopefully, only relevant to a very small fraction of anyone here, possibly even none at all (though personally I think I've read posts here from those whose parents are in that 'narcissistic' range) (but that's only my inexpert and biased opinion of course!).
I post the link if it's the slightest help to anyone here at all.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the ... or-elderly
If you don't like the subject, don't read it.
If you don't even like that I've posted the link, it will, today, be water off a duck's back to me as its a DD for me (Diazapam day) and I'm floating merrily away.

If the mods don't like the link, then it will disappear anyway.
PS - FWIW I don't consider MIL narcissistic. Just mentally incapable now of saying thank you. Not her fault.
PPS - not sure whether to post this now. Scared. Then I think, look, if I've got to the point now where I'm scared of posting something controversial then this forum isn't the place for me, or anyone in situations similar to mine ('dark caring')
PPPS - oh, s*d it, I'll just post it anyway, and wait for the damn deluge.