I have been a carer for my BPD boyf for the last 5 years or so. He has always battled with mental illness however diagnosed 5 years ago as BPD.
He has his moments and as I am the closest I get the fall out. But I am increasingly struggling with being shouted out or blamed when he is behaving irrationally.
I do not planning on leaving him but I don't know how to make him see how utterly hurtful and selfish he is being as I am not brave enough to tell him. I try to protect him and his feelings yet feel he doesn't care about mine.
He accuses me of not listening to him and the incident today was because I answered the door to the police - we have issues with the police and put a complaint in about them and they made threats today and put us in a corner where we had to help them (very long story but essentially they failed to help us when we were attacked by a neighbour resulting in a complaint against them) so he is angry at me because I didn;t spot the high viz vest s etc.
I am afraid of everything - and being in trouble and have my own issues. My grandad died at the weekend. Yet today I am the worst person ever.
I shouldnt accept his behaviour but I do...
He has his moments and as I am the closest I get the fall out. But I am increasingly struggling with being shouted out or blamed when he is behaving irrationally.
I do not planning on leaving him but I don't know how to make him see how utterly hurtful and selfish he is being as I am not brave enough to tell him. I try to protect him and his feelings yet feel he doesn't care about mine.
He accuses me of not listening to him and the incident today was because I answered the door to the police - we have issues with the police and put a complaint in about them and they made threats today and put us in a corner where we had to help them (very long story but essentially they failed to help us when we were attacked by a neighbour resulting in a complaint against them) so he is angry at me because I didn;t spot the high viz vest s etc.
I am afraid of everything - and being in trouble and have my own issues. My grandad died at the weekend. Yet today I am the worst person ever.
I shouldnt accept his behaviour but I do...