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A rather bad situation - Page 2 - Carers UK Forum

A rather bad situation

For issues specific to caring for someone with mental ill health.
bowlingbun wrote:
Sat Mar 27, 2021 12:23 pm
I think that is a very sensible decision.
Remember this is a forum for former carers, as well as current carers.
We have supported others to move out, in similar situations.
One member is now married with a baby, a success story.

It's going to be a difficult year, but surely your life has lurched from one drama to another with mum all your life?
I believe we are all responsible for our own happiness.
If we don't put ourselves first, no one else will.
Mum has lost her right to any help from you due to her own behaviour.
Do you still have a key to the house? Can you get your stuff out?
Thank you that has made me feel better about myself for doing it.

Unfortunately the police made me hand over the keys to her. Aswell as keys to mobility car.

Yea the police handed over the car keys to someone with a long history with mental illness which they are aware off :huh:

I've been in contact with the home support team and a social worker. They basically said there's nothing they can do as this is a family matter. :?
In that case, no one can blame you for the chaos that is inevitably going to follow!
I'm still concerned about your things, she has no right to keep them from you.
Is there anyone she listens to who could escort you into the house to get them?

A good mother would never EVER behave as she has done. Don't hope that she will change, she never
will. Somehow, get over this, and aim for a new happier and more peaceful, stress free life for yourself.

As lockdown is now easing, they were saying on TV this week that all sorts of holiday places are looking for seasonal employees. This would give you some breathing space, especially as these jobs might com e with accommodation.
bowlingbun wrote:
Sat Mar 27, 2021 3:17 pm
In that case, no one can blame you for the chaos that is inevitably going to follow!
I'm still concerned about your things, she has no right to keep them from you.
Is there anyone she listens to who could escort you into the house to get them?

A good mother would never EVER behave as she has done. Don't hope that she will change, she never
will. Somehow, get over this, and aim for a new happier and more peaceful, stress free life for yourself.

As lockdown is now easing, they were saying on TV this week that all sorts of holiday places are looking for seasonal employees. This would give you some breathing space, especially as these jobs might com e with accommodation.
Thanks for the tip.

There isn't anyone else my mum doesn't have friends. Brother is in Scotland atm and haven't seen the other one for many years.

Shocked at the lack of help im getting houing executive hasn't rang me back. And soical are basically tough luck

If she doesn't allow me to get my stuff then next step will be the police I guess