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Hi Lesley
Welcome to the forum. That sounded like a cry from the heart. What's the problem? What advice do you need? Who are you caring for? How can we help you?
Tell a little more and we will do our best.
All carers here, no-one judging or sneering or putting you down.
Have a virtual hug to start with
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Elaine
Please help me l am in such a mess cant cope with the everything l need help I am not a bad person just got into such a mess don't know where to turn cant cope with every one thing I am a horrible person when I am not
Lesley, We will try, if you just tell us what's wrong? Can't help if you don't say what the matter is.
Elaine
Its just to big l am scared my son has down syndrome he has direct payments l am in such a mess with them l don't know what to do with payments rent arrears and bailiffs no one asked me if I was good with money l just need someone to talk to please
Some one has to help me please
Cant see what anybody has put
Lesley,
Have you got a social worker if so call and ask them for help.
If not, call Social Services anyway.
Or call the helpline on this site.
Citizens Advice might be of help. Is there a Citizen's Advice near you?
If you have a bank account, go to your bank and ask to speak to someone.
Is your son in school? Ask to speak to the head teacher and tell them your problems. They should give you some support. Have you got anyone, a friend or a family member who could help you do any of this?
Elaine
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Hi Lesley, welcome to the forum. I have a son with learning difficulties and receive Direct Payments, but I've just told the local authority that in future, I don't want to be responsible for this aspect of my son's care. I'm going back onto "Commissioned Services", in other words, they can make all the arrangements and pay the bills.
I have some serious health problems so my son doesn't live with me, he lives in a flat with care support, and he uses various day services. I have now used five different care providers for support, they all agree to do one thing, but do another. Even my request to take my son to see the latest James Bond film was ignored.
After 36 years of caring, caring in total for ten different carees during that time, I've simply had enough. I want to go back to just being my son's mum again. In future, the council can do all the payments.