I agree you have to view places from their point of view. At one point my MIL with advancing dementia was in a lovely care home, with big gardens and a glorious views of the countryside down to the coast, a room with a bird table outside, etc etc, and she was utterly and totally oblivious to it - couldn't have cared less. It just wasn't important to her.
Their world is closing down and down and down, and getting smaller and smaller.
I visited my MIL this last week, and though she just about recognised me across the lounge as I waved at her and came in, her eyes soon drifted away even when I was with her and talking to her....until one of the staff came in and she brightened immediately and beckoned him over. HE was far more 'important' to her than I was....and that is both sad, and reassuring in a way. Her 'world' has shrunk to a tiny space in what is left of her poor mind now.
Their world is closing down and down and down, and getting smaller and smaller.
I visited my MIL this last week, and though she just about recognised me across the lounge as I waved at her and came in, her eyes soon drifted away even when I was with her and talking to her....until one of the staff came in and she brightened immediately and beckoned him over. HE was far more 'important' to her than I was....and that is both sad, and reassuring in a way. Her 'world' has shrunk to a tiny space in what is left of her poor mind now.