Henrietta,
I worked full time while caring for mum with dementia and various physical ailments. Looking back, I don't know how I managed it. I did have the ability to work from home when necessary, or rather work from mum's. The reality though is that I was permanently exhausted. All my leave for at last five years was spent on her hospital appointments. Mum wouldn't go to daycare either so I managed a combination of carers 4x a day, plus, cleaner, gardener, dementia sitter (mum hated the latter) and refused to speak to them
). On the plus side, it kept my mortgage paid, cv intact and gave me a reminder of life outside caring.
The tipping point came when mum was waking me up most days about 3am to go to school
and when I was called out of work three times in one week to attend to crises. She then ended up back in hospital and from there to a nursing home.
In short, it can be done but at a cost to your own health ...
I worked full time while caring for mum with dementia and various physical ailments. Looking back, I don't know how I managed it. I did have the ability to work from home when necessary, or rather work from mum's. The reality though is that I was permanently exhausted. All my leave for at last five years was spent on her hospital appointments. Mum wouldn't go to daycare either so I managed a combination of carers 4x a day, plus, cleaner, gardener, dementia sitter (mum hated the latter) and refused to speak to them

The tipping point came when mum was waking me up most days about 3am to go to school

In short, it can be done but at a cost to your own health ...