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Carers UK Forum • My lovely grandmother x
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My lovely grandmother x

Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:33 pm
by Lauren_1909
Hi guys,

I’ve previously posted in the forum about my nans ongoing forgetfulness and I would just like to explain what has happened to her over the past week. So last Wednesday me and my Nan went up to Tesco’s shopping, had a lovely afternoon out a few forgetfulness and confusion going around but just the norm. Thursday she rang frantic asking why no one was there with her and wondering why I was in work, I explained that I will be calling up there once I had finished work, 18:30 I had a phone call off my cousin who had a phone call off one of her neighbours explaining that she had been found walking up the street in her slippers carrying the cat. My cousin went to get her and to see how this had happened and my Nan has said she wanted to go back to her house (her house she lived in 25 years ago about 10 miles away) when my cousin got her back into the house she because extremely aggressive attacking my cousin, she had to lock all of the doors to keep her inside and eventually my aunty turned up along with myself. We sang out of hours and they advised us to call an ambulance due to her safety, 12:30 am the ambulance took my Nan into the hospital and the next day moved her to a ward, since then my Nan has completely gone down hill pacing back and fourth all night not eating stealing people’s blankets hiding her underwear and completely going back in time to when she was working, they’ve referred a social worker which could take weeks and are going to plan a meeting with myself and the family to see where we go from here, she’s been in hospital a week tomorrow and we’ve still not had an actual diagnosis. I was just wondering if dementia can decline that dramatically over a week. Also they’ve run tests and found no infection it’s just crazy how suddenly someone can take a turn for the worst, she was also extremely mobile with no falls and since she has been in hospital she has had a fall during personal care.

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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:43 pm
by Ayjay
Lauren_1909 wrote:
Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:33 pm
I was just wondering if dementia can decline that dramatically over a week.
I can't vouch for that: but your Gran is definitely suffering from Dementia. I could sit here until midnight writing similar tales of my Mothers doings in the last couple of years of her life, all equally baffling.

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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2019 4:59 pm
by bowlingbun
Make sure that the hospital do a brain scan to see what is going on, before she goes anywhere. This needs investigating.

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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2019 5:05 pm
by Albert_1604
'Rapidly progressive dementia' (RPD) exists, this term is generally used to refer to cases with significant and progressive cognitive impairment that occurs over weeks or months.

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Posted: Thu Nov 21, 2019 11:49 pm
by thara_1910
Ask for a brain MRI scan for Gran so you know what is going on. This is serious and she may even possibly need support too.

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Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:35 am
by bowlingbun
It is incredibly sad to see someone you love and cherish in this situation. My lovely sister in law died earlier this year, we never ever had a cross word, she was kind, and gentle, an amazing cook who spent most of her spare time helping the local Scout group - before she was married she was Akela for a cub pack. Sadly, she spent her last couple of years in a secure nursing home because she would go out and forget where she lived etc.
You know your gran really well, think of the music she enjoyed most, the soap and powder she liked to use etc., maybe her favourite hand cream for Christmas? Anything that gives her pleasure that she can still enjoy.

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Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:53 am
by Lauren_1909
Thanks so so much for replying guys (I don’t know how to tag anyone) I went in to see my Nan last night and she is completely back to normal again no wandering no saying strange things, she knows everyone who has visited and completely understands everything that is happening to her and it is heartbreaking. She could not stop crying asking when is this illness going to go and what if it comes back and it breaks my heart knowing it isn’t going to go it will come back. As much as this sounds selfish and nasty of me the more confused the better as she didn’t know what was happening to her and in her own world. :(

She has had a mri scan and a ct scan and nothing has come back off it. X

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Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:59 am
by bowlingbun
Not selfish at all Lauren, it's really heart breaking.
All everyone wants is to be back to their "normal self" but sadly life isn't like that.
It's difficult to know what to wish for at times.

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Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2019 9:12 am
by Lauren_1909
bowlingbun wrote:
Fri Nov 22, 2019 8:59 am
Not selfish at all Lauren, it's really heart breaking.
All everyone wants is to be back to their "normal self" but sadly life isn't like that.
It's difficult to know what to wish for at times.
I’ve never felt sad like it. My Nan is my bestest friend and we’ve always done everything together. She keeps saying I just want to come home and it’s upsetting to know that she might not be able to :( x

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Posted: Fri Nov 22, 2019 9:44 am
by Melly1
Lauren,
Pet66 explained her similar feelings as "premature grief," when her husband was diagnosed with dementia and she had to watch him gradually decline.

As BB said, help your Grandmother to enjoy the now with favourite activities, treats etc and create even more good memories of shared times.

(((Lauren)))

Melly1