Hello to you people who are reading -thought it was about time that I started a new thread instead of hijacking other posts with news about my mother!
At the moment, she is still in Intermediate Care. I've been reading through some of Jessie's posts and realise that in some ways, my mother is going through something similar.
Talk of SS and the fact that they are not very good? It's made me worry! Ok, so I realise that I can't cope with my mother's needs full time any more. I know that she will inevitably end up in a Residential Home, although I'd always said that wouldn't happen. (Little did I know then)....but today the S/W phoned and said that they would have to do a Mental Capacity test on her as she refuses to go into a Home and wants to go home. The S/W admits that they can't do it themselves, so are going to get one of the Staff on the ward to do it.
Is this legal?
I know that I've said that I don't and haven't in the past got on very well with Mum, but at the end of the day, that's what she is - my Mum and I want to do right by her, even if it's not what she wants!
I'm dreading the day when she accuses me of 'putting her away'! It sounds like I'm sending her to prison - and is that how she's going to see it?
It's ok talking about being right in 'letting go', but it doesn't stop these feelings. The head is well able to look at the rational side of things, but my heart is getting in the way!
Really, I suppose, this post is to get some of what I'm feeling out of my head - or heart, whichever the feelings are in. ......
Thanks for reading this and being there with me xxx
(Sometimes I don't even want reassurances - just someone to say, yes, that's what you're feeling and I accept it....
my partner always tries to 'fix' things, and that can't be done in this instance! )
At the moment, she is still in Intermediate Care. I've been reading through some of Jessie's posts and realise that in some ways, my mother is going through something similar.
Talk of SS and the fact that they are not very good? It's made me worry! Ok, so I realise that I can't cope with my mother's needs full time any more. I know that she will inevitably end up in a Residential Home, although I'd always said that wouldn't happen. (Little did I know then)....but today the S/W phoned and said that they would have to do a Mental Capacity test on her as she refuses to go into a Home and wants to go home. The S/W admits that they can't do it themselves, so are going to get one of the Staff on the ward to do it.
Is this legal?
I know that I've said that I don't and haven't in the past got on very well with Mum, but at the end of the day, that's what she is - my Mum and I want to do right by her, even if it's not what she wants!
I'm dreading the day when she accuses me of 'putting her away'! It sounds like I'm sending her to prison - and is that how she's going to see it?

It's ok talking about being right in 'letting go', but it doesn't stop these feelings. The head is well able to look at the rational side of things, but my heart is getting in the way!
Really, I suppose, this post is to get some of what I'm feeling out of my head - or heart, whichever the feelings are in. ......
Thanks for reading this and being there with me xxx
(Sometimes I don't even want reassurances - just someone to say, yes, that's what you're feeling and I accept it....
my partner always tries to 'fix' things, and that can't be done in this instance! )