thanks,jeanette,i think we are just waiting on the consultants report to make it to adult social care,care co ordinator and social worker gave theirs and been assessed for £175 a week care,so fingers crossed,these bank holidays don't help as the managers meet on a tuesday,at least i've got care co ordinator and the consultant helping me,mark from adult social care is brilliant also, i will lose carers allowance but have a chance of hitting the 30 hrs threshold for wtc,north east lincolnshire council have extended and adapted our home,i just need to afford to live in it now,quite scary,lose eldest daughters tax credit at end of june then the other 2 kids money next year,with no way of going work fulltime because of leaving the wife the same as you wouldn't leave a child home alone,most couples would be off out and about when kids grow up,it's quite cruel how things turn out,off to hinckley tomorrow to renew my taxi badge and see friends who the wife can't remember and scared to see,but would be equally as scared and lost if i left her at home with kids.