My 92 year old father is in care home. I thought things would be better and they are in a lot of ways .
He went in under protest. Not managing at home but in denial of this. Lived alone with carers visiting 3 times a day .He hated them and would not engage. I got various organisations involved to try to keep him at home. He said they were all hopeless and did not want their help. The mental health consultant said he was confused. Had cognitive decline and did not have capacity to make decisions regarding his care and my Father refused to do anything to make life better. He sat in home with blinds and curtains shut and spent most of time in bed. He ended up in hospital due to bowel issues. Soiled bed for 3 days and refused help to get cleaned up by me or carers.
End of road for me . I spoke to social work . We got consultant to issue form regarding lack of capacity to make decisions. This triggered Care part of power of attorney and I am responsible for his care.
He is now behaving very badly. Hallucinations about seeing dead relatives. Stories about how bad staff are to him and loads of lies.Nurses suspect dementia now. He has asked one of girls who care for him to marry him .Sure he thinks that means he can get out and she will care for him. He has a bag packed each time I go in and says he's going home . Asked me to clean out bathroom but said no. I have always been told best to go along with what he says. He gets nasty when I don't agree with him . What advice can you give. Cut visits to weekly and of course now says I am not interested in him .He never asks me a thing about my life and is totally self centred. Should I ask care home for advice
He went in under protest. Not managing at home but in denial of this. Lived alone with carers visiting 3 times a day .He hated them and would not engage. I got various organisations involved to try to keep him at home. He said they were all hopeless and did not want their help. The mental health consultant said he was confused. Had cognitive decline and did not have capacity to make decisions regarding his care and my Father refused to do anything to make life better. He sat in home with blinds and curtains shut and spent most of time in bed. He ended up in hospital due to bowel issues. Soiled bed for 3 days and refused help to get cleaned up by me or carers.
End of road for me . I spoke to social work . We got consultant to issue form regarding lack of capacity to make decisions. This triggered Care part of power of attorney and I am responsible for his care.
He is now behaving very badly. Hallucinations about seeing dead relatives. Stories about how bad staff are to him and loads of lies.Nurses suspect dementia now. He has asked one of girls who care for him to marry him .Sure he thinks that means he can get out and she will care for him. He has a bag packed each time I go in and says he's going home . Asked me to clean out bathroom but said no. I have always been told best to go along with what he says. He gets nasty when I don't agree with him . What advice can you give. Cut visits to weekly and of course now says I am not interested in him .He never asks me a thing about my life and is totally self centred. Should I ask care home for advice