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It’s all kicking off at home with my Aspie teen

Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2018 6:03 pm
by Claire_1803
I have an 18 yr old who has Aspergers. We have never had any kind of help from anywhere really. No benefits, allowances, practical help. I have just always managed.

He is at college part time and works in a fast food restaurant a couple of shifts a week. Apart from that he does nothing. He doesn’t socialise (except online) and he is very vulnerable especially financially.

He and his dad have clashed a few times. Physically. This week has been awful and he has stormed out. I’m trying to persuade him to come back, that we will look into appropriate living options as he doesn’t feel he can live here. So that’s my question. What ARE the living options for someone like him and how on earth are they funded?

Re: It’s all kicking off at home with my Aspie teen

Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2018 6:49 pm
by bowlingbun
Welcome to the forum.
It's a real shame that you never claimed benefits or asked Social Services for help. How did your son manage at school? Have you ever been in contact with Social Services at all?

Re: It’s all kicking off at home with my Aspie teen

Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2018 7:53 pm
by Melly1
Hi Claire,

Welcome to the forum.

What a worrying situation for you. Who/where is he staying at the moment?

What sort of support (in addition to support with finances and keeping safe financially,) do you envisage him needing if he moved out?

Melly1

Re: It’s all kicking off at home with my Aspie teen

Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2018 8:03 pm
by sunnydisposition
Claire_1803 wrote:
Sat Mar 03, 2018 6:03 pm
I have an 18 yr old who has Aspergers. We have never had any kind of help from anywhere really. No benefits, allowances, practical help. I have just always managed.

He is at college part time and works in a fast food restaurant a couple of shifts a week. Apart from that he does nothing. He doesn’t socialise (except online) and he is very vulnerable especially financially.

He and his dad have clashed a few times. Physically. This week has been awful and he has stormed out. I’m trying to persuade him to come back, that we will look into appropriate living options as he doesn’t feel he can live here. So that’s my question. What ARE the living options for someone like him and how on earth are they funded?
http://network.autism.org.uk/knowledge/ ... tic-adults

http://www.autism.org.uk/about/benefits ... -care.aspx

Re: It’s all kicking off at home with my Aspie teen

Posted: Thu Mar 15, 2018 2:36 pm
by Gilli
Welcome to the forum, Claire. Your son would have been eligible for Disabled Living Allowance. Of course, that has now changed to Personal Independence Payment and I would not like to suggest whether someone might be eligible for it or not. I would recommend you Google How to claim for Personal Independent Payment and follow the guidance you find. Also important would be to apply to be your son’s appointee, then any correspondence concerning the claim will be sent to you.

I hope you can find somewhere suitable for your son to live.

Gill”