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Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2016 10:31 pm
by Hellylou
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Re: Violent autistic teenage son

Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2016 10:39 pm
by bowlingbun
Maybe calling the police would make him realise his behaviour is unacceptable. Perhaps have a word with them when your son is not with you? Have you considered boarding school? Are you getting any help from CAMHS - Children's Mental Health?

Re: Violent autistic teenage son

Posted: Wed Apr 06, 2016 11:38 pm
by Melly1
Hi Hellylou,
S went from being a passive and (as long as his ASD needs were met and respected,) easy going child to very anxious in his mid teens. He developed epilepsy, acid reflux, IBS and constipation became a big issue. His anxiety meant he had panic attacks and leaving the house and going places was enormously stressful and trips often had to be aborted.

He went from being someone who didn't even like pillow fights etc and was horrified if he knocked something over by mistake etc to someone who trashed the house, pushed, bit and tried to hit me. At school and clubs he pushed others over, flipped chairs and threw furniture. Scary times.

Getting his new health needs dealt with, moving to a college which suited him better and an up-to-date sensory assessment by an OT were all part of the turn around. He still has the potential for hairy moments, but in the main our situation is much improved.

Puberty is hard enough for neuro-typical youngsters let alone for those with ASD, it is a often a time when it all starts to unravel.

Re the police, I came very close to that on a number of occasions. I have heard from other parents who have used them. They advise contacting them in advance and explaining that you might need their help in the future and why. The police then don't come round to arrest the person concerned but to help them calm down and keep everyone safe. This was a few years ago, though before many local stations were closed down.

Feel free to PM me if it would help.

Melly1

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Posted: Thu Apr 07, 2016 8:17 am
by Hellylou
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Re: Violent autistic teenage son

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 11:49 am
by Gilli
Sounds like getting the police on side pre having to call them out in an emergency would be a good idea, but I do think you need to have a multidisciplinary meeting on what way to go next in the best interests of your son and you.

You don't mention a husband or partner - are you a single mum?

Gillian

Re: Violent autistic teenage son

Posted: Tue Apr 26, 2016 5:19 pm
by sunnydisposition
http://www.challengingbehaviour.org.uk/

Have you heard of the above charity?
I did watch a TV program where a family had no choice put to call the police. The teenage with Autism was so violet and distrutive. The family could not manage his outbursts. The family made contact with their local police and put a plan in place. So the next time his behaviour was awful and unmanagable they called the police. Who attended and took their son to the police station. This happened a couple of times before his behaviour changed. The family used we are going to call the police. The police reinforce his behaviour as unacceptable and he would be taken to the police station until he had calmed down. It's the old story actions have consequences! The family knew he would be treated fairly and safe as the police were aware of his Autism and how to communicate with him. Each time it took two quite strong police officers to get him in to the car.