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Fed up tonight - Carers UK Forum

Fed up tonight

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I love my husband but there's always something wrong with him. Hes always in pain, ill, depressed, angry. I've got no patience left. This has been going on for 27 years.
Hes out of work due to a spinal injury, and I work full time. It's so hard to stay positive and be happy.
I'm not being selfish, honest. I'm just having a 'moment '.
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Sharon, that's allowed. Are you both getting all the help and support you need? I hate Valentine's Day. I'm widowed.
bowlingbun wrote:
Fri Feb 14, 2020 9:13 pm
I hate Valentine's Day. I'm widowed.
Me too, but for different reasons: our wedding anniversary is 12th Feb (48th just gone) and most restaurants just can't resist messing about and put a Valentine's day menu on when all we want is a normal quiet meal. It's a bit academic now though as she's barely fit to be seen eating in public, I'll not go into too much detail but her Prawn Risotto tonight ended up on her nose, and that wasn't from misuse of cutlery. I might have to rename her Miss Piggy :ohmy:

Anyway, you rant away as much as you like Sharon. Does hubby get the right pain relief - when was the last time it was reviewed?
Sharon. Moan away. I feel like a moan tonight too. Today has not been good. 27 years is a long time to Have to cope with this.
Sharon

We all absorb other people's energy. If we are around people who are feeling miserable it rubs off on you.

And the opposite is of course true. Being around happy people makes you feel happy.

The way I have dealt with this (being a carer), in the past is to surround myself with friends with a good sense of humour.

Of course there is less time for friends these days..but I do try to meet up with them i when when I can. Probably every two weeks.

A few minutes of laughter makes my carers roll away..for a while anyway.

It has always kept me going.