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Today, yet again, I stopped at a junction in between Mum's place and mine, waiting for a break in the cross traffic so that I could turn right. A driver on the main road in front of me, signalling right and therefore planning to turn in front of me hung back from the junction. I could not clearly see what was happening. Was he dropping someone off, but not signalling left? Was there an obstruction I couldn't see? No the driver was being 'helpful'. He intended to 'let me out' before turning. When he drew up he was the only car in the queue. By the time I had craned my neck and guessed what he was doing there was a long queue behind him. I didn't move. He had the right of way. If I had decided to cut in front of him and turn, just as he decided to move anyway and he'd hit me, whose fault would it have been deemed to be in the eyes of insurance? Mine of course. I waved him on and he turned. I was glared at and given the victory sign in reverse. Drivers behind me were impatient. Was it an idiot or was I avoiding a 'crash scam'. I don't know but I wish drivers would just not do that. It makes me so cross.
Hi Elaine,
I can understand your problem, but presumably next time it happens you will know. Did the other driver not flash his lights twice to alert you?
There is a junction near me where this is often done. I find it hard to remember to do it myself for others though. I think it's a good way of keeping traffic moving.
I do agree that I hate people using the V sign. That doesn't help anybody!
What annoys me is when you are in two lanes at a junction and you want to turn right. Youre checking right and left before doing so and just then a vehicle comes up in the lane on your left so far that you can't see anything at all approaching from the left. You then have to sit there waiting until he's turned left and you can see again! Very inconsiderate! :evil:
Hi Elaine
I totally get what you mean. I live on a busy main road and almost opposite the entrance to a garage forecourt. On the opposite lane 2 lanes of traffic merge into one at more or less my house and on my side the reverse one lane divides into 2 at more or less my house so I need eyes in the back of my head every time I come and go. Not only do I have to wait to see if some kind sole lets me out of my gate but also if there is an idiot trying to overtake them oblivious to my presence. People coming out of the garage will sometimes wait for me but if I don't consider there is enough time to safely get across the road and turn right , I just let them wait and sit back in my driveway until I have enough room in all 3 directions. Like you, if I judge it wrong , it would be my error in any insurance scenario. I also get the added complication of misinterpreting traffic flashes which could be to let someone in to or out of the petrol station rather than me across the road. Additionally sandwiched between 2 lots of traffic lights which usually seem to let traffic go alternatively outside my house it can take up to ten minutes just to get out of my gate at some times.
You've started something here Elaine!

What annoys me is drivers who break the Highway Code when I want to turn right at the traffic lighted, multi-laned box junction, on my way home from school each day. Cars going straight on fill the box junction, even though they can't go anywhere due to traffic queuing at their exit and this prevents me and others turning right because we can't get past, even though our exit is free.

Grrrr!

Melly1
What annoys me more than anything is the way I'm treated by Social Services. Not given any recognition for my qualifications and experience. With 10 O levels, 3 A levels and a Honours degree, they suggested as part of my Carers Assessment that I might like to do an academic course at the local college. Surely I'm qualified enough for a retirement now?!
bowlingbun wrote:What annoys me more than anything is the way I'm treated by Social Services. Not given any recognition for my qualifications and experience. With 10 O levels, 3 A levels and a Honours degree, they suggested as part of my Carers Assessment that I might like to do an academic course at the local college. Surely I'm qualified enough for a retirement now?!
Same here, BB. I've 8 O'levels, 3 A'levels, honours degree, I've done lots of courses and self study about learning disability and autism ... But they try and send me on silly courses e.g. autism awareness, beginner Makaton and offered me an NVQ level 2 course in care. In the main I find the social care workers are often social care assistants who have few qualifications, little knowledge of special needs, don't understand the system and struggle with basic literacy and numeracy. Occasionally one comes along with the relevant knowledge and skills which is so refreshing but they soon move on.

Melly1
Melly, I wonder if the people leading these courses are as well qualified as you?! I often think that somehow parents are blamed for having a special needs course, or wonder if they think we care for someone disabled just to make their lives difficult? Whenever I make any comment about M's care, it's always perceived as criticism, rather than a way of improving things. (M visited Swanage yesterday - but didn't visit the railway. Real shame, as a lifelong friend of M's who is in charge of engine driver instruction at the railway was there, M saw his car but wasn't taken to the railway, just the beach!! Bursledon Brickworks, near Southampton today. 120 miles @40p = £48. No one seems to be considering how he's going to pay his travel bill this month, when he has a total budget for everything of £100 per week)
Pure nonsense.

Melly1
Lack of plain ol' common sense these days.
Lack of general knowledge by young people.
Lack of manners, especially please and thank you s.
Arrogance.
The 'I'm better than you' attitude.

I think that's enough for now.