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Thread for general rants - Carers UK Forum

Thread for general rants

Socialise and chat about other areas of your life
Please feel free to add your own personal rants so I don't feel so alone.
Here is mine.
Helicopter has been here with pearls of wisdom and offers of "help". I have been grinding my teeth all afternoon, kicking the cat (if I had one) tearing my hair out, blood boiling and any other similar phrases.
How I hate helicopter relatives!! ( For new members, that means those that seldom visit, and then give advice about what you should be doing before disappearing for months, or in my case, years!!!)
Time for a glass of wine, and a long warm bath I think?!
glass of wine- now that might calm my nerves ! Or maybe a whole bottle of Brandy.
As long as it is "purely medicinal"?!
You are all so polite, I don't get unsolicited advice anymore (from people that I know) because too many of them have to been told where I think they should shove it :)
This is a proxy rant -

A friend of mine looking after her father is being strongly advised by her sister to put dad in a home asap, and can she please have her share of his money straight away......(after all, why bother with waiting for a funeral, probate, blah blah blah.....!!!!!!!!)
I'd love to do that, I just don't have the guts to say it to their faces.
I was so glad to see this as I had a serious case of the grumble-bums yesterday exacerbated by absent relatives; my sister and husband in Australia. I have only been caring for mum for a year but in that time the only night away we've had is when we attended the funeral of my MIL. My sister, on Skype, tells mum that they are away for four nights just the two of them next weekend so couldn't skype as usual. (Their 'responsibility' is ten mins a week!) Anyway I was a bit short with my sister (I have a filthy cold which isn't helping my temper or my jealousy) and felt bad about it almost immediately. She doesn't have Facebook or a home email account of her own so I sent an apology explaining why I was short with her on her husband's messenger. I got back a message from him telling me I clearly didn't understand how difficult my sister's life and job are! I have been fuming ever since! She is due over in April but I still don't believe it will happen, she's cancelled once already, so I have said very little more. I did say I wasn't apologising to him and was told to contact my sister by a different medium! Grrrrr
Anyhow, rant over, I'm off to tackle the ironing before mum gets up and my world is still quiet.
Tracy
What a cheek!! Make sure sister cares for mum single handed for at least 24 hours, so she can appreciate what you are doing, and what you have given up.
jenny lucas wrote:This is a proxy rant -

A friend of mine looking after her father is being strongly advised by her sister to put dad in a home asap, and can she please have her share of his money straight away......(after all, why bother with waiting for a funeral, probate, blah blah blah.....!!!!!!!!)
Money is just such a tool/weapon with some people, isn't it?! A friend of mine had an elderly aunt who passed away recently, she'd enjoyed pretty good health until a year or so before her death, my friend is the only one in the family who ever spent time with the aunt and, of course, when she was ill it was my friend who looked after her, when she died it was my friend that organised the funeral and then spent weeks clearing the house and dealing with all the paperwork etc, the other relatives where constantly phoning to see when the money was being shared out and one had the cheek to suggest that my friend was deliberately stalling the process! Makes me quite glad I don't have any, then you know people are around you for the right reasons!