New Year Resolutions

Socialise and chat about other areas of your life
I read this the other day which is a more positive view of resolutions
To make a list of things you want to do (without undue stress) some small, some big which will give a sense of personal achievement
Not sure if the link will post so these examples ranged from
A walk in local woods
Lighting a bonfire without matches
See a kingfisher
Write a poem
To whale watching in Forida
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Wouldn't have a clue where to start with new year resolutions.
To be honest not a clue where to start with anything. Do I stay in this house, if so how do I pay the bills? Do I move and if so where? Do I change my job and if so to what? So many oodles of enormous questions........
Reading previous post- am I going to have to surrender and finally join FB just to see what is out there?
Henrietta
In your current circumstance you are excused all New year resolutions, and are excused FB forever :)
Just be gentle with yourself, you are probably still numb and in shock.
Xx
MrsA
Thanks Mrs A,
I certainly went numb when I lost my mum years ago but I think with Dad , it was so expected and he had squeezed every last ounce out of life that I feel quite differently this time- very accepting of things and yes relief his suffering is over .
Henrietta,
Your best resolution would be to be kind to yourself. After the last few years, expect to fall over the "Cliff of Tiredness" which will possibly be after the funeral. Remind yourself that this is entirely normal.
I'd also suggest "Make NO long term decisions for a year". Your head will be all over the place for a while. Walk, swim, snooze, all top priorities.

There are no prizes for "getting through" a bereavement asap. It's therapeutic to take things slowly, to gradually say goodbye to dad and your life of the last few years. Don't let anyone make you hurry up about anything.

Keep a diary of your feelings, strictly for your eyes only. At the end of the year you will see just how far you've travelled.
Henrietta wrote:
Sun Dec 31, 2017 6:59 pm
Thanks Mrs A,
I certainly went numb when I lost my mum years ago but I think with Dad , it was so expected and he had squeezed every last ounce out of life that I feel quite differently this time- very accepting of things and yes relief his suffering is over .
I felt the same, sometimes the gladness that they are no longer suffering needs some kind of celebration, if that's not too stronger a word to use. Can you put some of the big decisions aside (or lower on the to do list at least) and give yourself a couple of treats now you have some well deserved time just for you?
Thanks BB
Main problem is only 50% of house so not entirely my sole decision, hate being at the mercy of helicopters but there it is.

and Thanks Mrs A , yes perhaps I will think of something but think I've got myself tied up with potential job application I was looking into before Christmas.
Henrietta wrote:
Sun Dec 31, 2017 7:23 pm
Thanks BB
Main problem is only 50% of house so not entirely my sole decision, hate being at the mercy of helicopters but there it is.
Put a bit of 'spin' on that and you could be a stubborn, thorn in the side of the helicopters rather than being at their mercy. I think you are in quite a strong bargaining position and can drive or control timescales somewhat. Karma and all that ;)
To recognise when I'm exhausted and have no more to give physically or mentally.