hello i wondered if i could have some advise for my mum who cares for my granmother97.
firstly my mum has been caring for my gran for the last 10years, in this time they have become close but my granmother in the last 5 years has lost a great deal of her sight and struggles to hear,(tv on full blast volume at 1am).
my mum has struggled for money since my father left her 15years ago and so it suited both of them that my granmother moved in with us from margate kent to london and my granmother has alot of savings to help out with the house, money has never really been an issue between them, but my granmother would when it suited her use the money issue as a stick to put down my mum and get her own way.
my mum has not had a proper holiday in 18years but my sister who immigrated to australia 2years ago is having a baby in september and said she would fly my mum out to australia for the birth as she would like my mum to be there.
now since my mum told my granmother of the holiday last month my granmother has been going off the rails.
i said i would take care of her but mum has said she wouldnt put up with me helping her with stuff like cleaning kermode and stuff like that.
i dont have a problem doing all this as im not working at the mo and could help, but mum thought it would be better to get a carer in once or twice a day just for that kind of stuff.
the real problem though that has started and the reason im making this post is since my granmother has learned of my mums holiday she is doing everything in her power to stop her from going, shes accusing my mum of stealing her things, saying she is going call the police and even today that she will take a load of paracetamol "and then youll be sorry" i have told my mum to talk to theyre GP, as ive never seen my mum soo upset, my mums talking to the gp now. im actually coming to the opinion that perhaps a few weeks in a restbite home may be the easiest thing. can someone give any help or advise, or just someone who could relate to the issues we are having.
firstly my mum has been caring for my gran for the last 10years, in this time they have become close but my granmother in the last 5 years has lost a great deal of her sight and struggles to hear,(tv on full blast volume at 1am).
my mum has struggled for money since my father left her 15years ago and so it suited both of them that my granmother moved in with us from margate kent to london and my granmother has alot of savings to help out with the house, money has never really been an issue between them, but my granmother would when it suited her use the money issue as a stick to put down my mum and get her own way.
my mum has not had a proper holiday in 18years but my sister who immigrated to australia 2years ago is having a baby in september and said she would fly my mum out to australia for the birth as she would like my mum to be there.
now since my mum told my granmother of the holiday last month my granmother has been going off the rails.
i said i would take care of her but mum has said she wouldnt put up with me helping her with stuff like cleaning kermode and stuff like that.
i dont have a problem doing all this as im not working at the mo and could help, but mum thought it would be better to get a carer in once or twice a day just for that kind of stuff.
the real problem though that has started and the reason im making this post is since my granmother has learned of my mums holiday she is doing everything in her power to stop her from going, shes accusing my mum of stealing her things, saying she is going call the police and even today that she will take a load of paracetamol "and then youll be sorry" i have told my mum to talk to theyre GP, as ive never seen my mum soo upset, my mums talking to the gp now. im actually coming to the opinion that perhaps a few weeks in a restbite home may be the easiest thing. can someone give any help or advise, or just someone who could relate to the issues we are having.