I wouldn't be a ......

Socialise and chat about other areas of your life
Working under an employer. Nothing personal about it but it would be a step backwards as I'm already proven to know what I am doing left to my own devices (running/growing businesses in a viable/sustained manner). And while I try very hard to be respectful/pleasant to all (even if I'm slightly at odds with the other persons perspective) if their outright rude/demeaning etc or worse and don't back off they don't know what a time they are in for :)

Working with the deceased (coroner / undertakers that sort of thing) - lost many I care about in recent years and as things are I'm not at peace with alot of that, facing it day in/out would be too much and probably put me in a worse place as hits too close to home.

Thought about teaching but don't think my communicational/social toolbox is up to task and the sector is also a minefield in the UK where schools are often glorified crèches today.

Generally I have a very broad skill set and firm sense of belief in terms of my personal capabilities but the main limiting factor is the work environment.. for example I'm not going to last a day in a care home where I see clients being neglected because I have a strong sense of injustice and will flatly refuse to "close ranks" (you know what I mean) and end up dismissed for whistle-blowing etc. I don't feel bound by financial obligations (since we're speaking about sustaining ourselves) and won't let money dictate me keeping my mouth shut about wrong doing.

Same sense I wouldn't want to become a social worker and spend my days pulling support away from the very people I'm supposed to be giving MORE support to in the name of ideology (completely at odds with the whole ethos of serving those vulnerable in our society)

You get the picture, its not pride just making choices you can live with.
Could probably see myself in a role where I am helping/supporting others (similar to past volunteer work)

Way things are I hope my health is just in a place where I can return to any sort of regular work if this comes to an end and honestly I'll be happy with that, I was lucky to earn a living doing things I enjoyed / was good at and I miss it.
I couldn't waste my time doing pointless paperwork and write 'crapplogy' stuff - you know, all the 'outcomes', 'objectives', 'mission statement's BS etc etc....

Oh, and I couldn't work in HR. Mostly for the reason above - those NIGHTMARE 'assessments' filled with total crappology.
Sounds like there is a common theme amongst our jobs we wouldn't do. It seems once you have been hit by becoming a full time carer we are simply not prepared to accept the general trivial niggles of everyday people in offices and doing red tape stuff or being dicatated to by others. Perhaps it is only the more independantly minded who post a lot on here?
That sounds about right! I don't think we could accept 'rubbish work' - ie, work that actually is 'unnecessary' (pointless), after we've been at the 'hard wire' of what life is all about (ie, what caring teaches us about the priorities of life!).

But I also think too that once we are (a) out of the office environment and (b) older, we just no longer 'take kindly' to being told what to do by (younger) people let alone doing 'pointless' things!
Henrietta wrote:
Mon Oct 08, 2018 11:45 am
Sounds like there is a common theme amongst our jobs we wouldn't do. It seems once you have been hit by becoming a full time carer we are simply not prepared to accept the general trivial niggles of everyday people in offices and doing red tape stuff or being dicatated to by others. Perhaps it is only the more independantly minded who post a lot on here?
Its a bit of both. You can't change the habit of a lifetime but in the same breath by the time I had finished with education and gone into my first job I'd already been involved in care for some time so had that independent streak already,

I don't see it as a negative because if I did not have something to motivate/drive me to be that way growing up because of my social issues I might had ended up struggling massively as an adult to be independent and certainly wouldn't be able to look after anyone else.

The other side of that coin is through ruling the roost you also become the proverbial den mother (matriarch/patriarch figurehead) and that never really goes away, you can't switch off your instincts. If I see someone in trouble/struggling I'm always going to visualize that as a situation where I would previously had stepped in and done something about it.

I can learn to get along with almost anybody if they are reasonable but thats not the way the world works.. reasonable just means you get treated bad while others bury their head in the sand, being under someones thumb like that would honestly bring out the worst in me because I refuse to be intimidated/bullied or see it go on around me.