DennisSebasi _2201 wrote: ↑
Mon Feb 07, 2022 11:06 am
I am feeling sad because of my sister. We have never been close to each other we were just like poles a apart. We fight all the time. Sometimes we were pitted against each other which has caused resentment. Does anyone have similar stories with happy endings or just any advice how to solve the issues between us?
Thanks in advance
Have a good think about how to approach a fresh start with her.
you are adults now and childhood/adolescent differences are now by the by, they should be put down to childhood and a mutual respect sorted out in an adult relationship.
Change the perspective, focus on what you like and respect about her, what you are proud of about her.
Kids can be cruel, they don't understand consequences and you might not have been overtly cruel but you may have hurt each other with words or actions to spite the other or for effect/sport. That is kids and siblings and when you are opposites then the clashes are worse. Take the lead by moving on from that or it will never change.
Can you find some common ground, accept differing viewpoints, agree to differ and try to start again on the opposites attract basis, with a new respectful sibling relationship with baby steps - if anything happened to either of you it would be too late for regrets and that you could find a good mutually respectful and rich mature sibling relationship. Think positive, give and take, make that courageous message or letter and give it time.
If nothing else you will know you tried.