A Tax rose is but a rose by any other name

[Elaine]

Now you are an experienced sailor you should write a story about mermaids and sea monsters.
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[Sajehar]

Elaine,

I’d love to. But SM and me (or I, that man's grammer confuses me) have had a banjacxing row. He won’t talk to me, and I won’t talk to him.

Stupid really, but neither of us will give way. Maybe I’ll text him? He is such an idiot? Maybe I am?

[SheWolf]

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[bowlingbun]

My husband and I always agreed - that we didn't know who needed the medal most, me for putting up with him, or him for putting up with me!!

[Elaine]

Well, if it wasn't personal, ie I hate your bad habits and OK I hate your clothes, sort of thing, but a difference of opinion on some subject, there's an old song. Potatoes and potartoes, tomatoes and tomaytoes. I think one of the lines was 'Let's call the whole thing off' but if I remember rightly it ends well. You could listen to it and if it seems appropriate, send it to him? Not if it doesn't end well of course. Can't remember.
Or just text him a crying 'smiley'.
Or wait for the flowers.
Or wave goodbye to love life and happiness?
Were either of you really, really nasty?
Really, really unforgivable?
E.

[bowlingbun]

Do you love this man? Is he kind, caring, considerate, honest... To me the resounding answer to these questions is undoubtedly "YES!" Is there a magic spark between you that you have seldom, if ever, felt before, physically and intellectually? Having read many of your posts, the answer to that seems to be "YES" too.
Can you agree to disagree? - Is this the sticking point? Is it really worth throwing away one of the best, if not THE best relationship you have ever had, because of an argument? Or has the argument been brewing for some time? I do NOT want you to let yourself down, to sabotage yourself and your happiness forever after. You might regret it for the rest of your life. There are a million and one ways to say sorry, to explain why you felt it was justified to have an argument, from sending him a sorry card, an email, an invite to a meal, to your bed, whatever, it's entirely up to you, but please don't sabotage your future happiness.
If you don't go on that cruise with him, he will never forgive you, because it's an insult and shows you don't love him as much as he loves you, and the relationship will be finished.

[charles47]

Or we could just let the two of you work it out for yourselves. Only you know how you feel...but trust the way you feel.

[SheWolf]

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[bowlingbun]

Maybe this is "crunch" time - Yes/No. Of course it's entirely up to them to decide where to go from here. I'm a great fan of "decision trees". You have to ask/answer the questions to arrive at an overall decision, whether it's what sort of gas boiler to have, or who to spend the rest of your life with. They often help identify the "critical factor" whether it's cheesy socks or a dislike of moustaches. Not whether you can put up with something, but whether you really want to try to live without it!

[Scally]

You may not be surprised to know that Mrs Scally and I have always enjoyed a fairly noisy relationship, but that 27 years on we are still together. A good argument helps clear the air sometimes.