Hi there, Welcome and so sorry about the problems with Dad. My suggestions are Label drawers and cupboards, ‘Knives and forks’, ‘pants and socks’, ‘shirts and trousers’, ‘tins of food’. Make a ‘memory book’ of photos from the past and recent of family members. ‘This is your grandson John. He is 21 a...
Hi Karma Worst scenario. The Canadian in laws have an ‘agenda’ and are planning to leave MIL with you ‘forever’ because of costs in Canada or family unwilling to take on the future care needed. Best scenario. They really mean only a few months so MIL can see your husband as the end of her life appro...
Dear Lynne, That’s all so hard and you have already done so much. Pulled in so many directions and exhausted both physically and emotionally. Please bear in mind that we do not know you and whatever we say we are trying to help and offer advice knowing only the bare bones of your situation. I cared ...
Hello Jamie, I’m sticking my nose in here, am not in your situation, and probably won’t be much help. That’s a good start eh? The message I want to give you is that it seems to me that you are looking at this from the wrong angle. You are thinking how to juggle your new marriage, your job (which isn...
Hello Alison, I'm not going to be any help to you apart from giving you a virtual hug. ((())). I am in awe of how much you have fought for your Mum and how alert you are to small changes which tell you something is wrong. I don't know how to fight the battle you face. I will not tell you to hand you...
Hi Carl and welcome, I’m going to add a couple of suggestions which may be helpful. Your FIL may have cancelled his SS assessment but that doesn’t mean that your wife cannot have a Carer’s assessment. Or even an assessment in her own right. The former will alert SS to the elderly couple and your wif...
Hi Nigel. Please go onto the .gov website and look up Power of Attorney. Are you aware that you can fill in all the forms online, print them off and then get them signed by the attorneys, (you and your sister?) your father and an independent witness who will swear that Dad understands. Then the pape...
Hi Natasha, It's late and you might not get many replies tonight. This is completely outside of my experience so I just want to say welcome to the forum. I will ask one question and please remember I don't know you or your circumstances so please don't be offended as no offence intended. Do you want...
No Anne, Your relative does not have any obligation to even try to look after his mum any longer. This is for both their sakes. His because he's exhausted already and hers because she now needs a team of people to look after her. A task beyond any one carer. Your relative should be proud of the care...
Hi Nigel, Welcome. Difficult for people here to make suggestions without a few more details - such as ages, your partner's illness/problems and so on. One thing I can suggest is that if your partner will not accept any outside help, that doesn't apply to you. You can ask for a Carer's assessment fro...