<t>My friends OH was recently discharged from hospital. He has a malignant brain tumour and was taken in because he couldn't move one of his legs. He was disorientated and confused, but after a couple of days they told him he could go to the toilet on his own. He fell. Broke the hip on his OK leg. T...

<t>I've looked into DP for carers to come in, (at the moment we have Council) We have 2 for 1 hour on a morning, and 1 for a 'tea' call 1/2 hour on an evening - which is a joke - what are they supposed to be able to 'cook' in 1/2 hour????<br/> <br/> Told that because OH needs 2 on a morning for hois...

<t>Hi Dorothy ((((hugs)))))<br/> <br/> I think most of us can empathise with you over this.<br/> <br/> My caree goes from telling me I do far too much, and that I need a break, to complaining constantly. I'm told that I care far more for my 'friends' than him - this because I'm taking them to the ho...

if your son was smearing faeces and banging his head off the walls with great force 24/7 and unable to communicate in any form Vicky Well, its all about choice, isn't it? In that situation I would do exactly the same thing as my brother in law's family did with their profoundly autistic son who use...

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<t>Kira <br/> I am so sorry to hear this very sad news.<br/> <br/> Nothing that anyone says will make you feel better, but perhaps knowing that people on here are thinking about you and your family will bring a little comfort. Many have been in similar circumstances and know how hard it is to cope. ...

<t>I've read, and heard, that we Carers save the Government around £87 BILLION a year.<br/> <br/> I don't know about the rest of you but personally I'm sick of being an 'unsung hero' I'd much rather be a SUNG hero!! LOL<br/> <br/> Trouble is of course they have us over a barrel. We can hardly thr...

<t>Kira<br/> Don't try and look too far ahead. Thinking about funerals or adapting the house can wait. <br/> <br/> If your Dad is meant to go now it will happen. Just tell him that you love him and that everything is going to be OK. That you are strong and will do things as he would want them done. ...

<t>ndem<br/> <br/> Unless things have changed drastically I believe you can insist on a 'specialist' in your illness for this kind of review. <br/> <br/> There are many illnesses that a normal GP would not be able comprehend fully. If you get refused please seek advice on this, and in the meantime k...

<t>Hi Bluebird<br/> <br/> I'm reading your post and I'm a bit baffled. Why are the Social Services and the Doctor asking your Mum about respite when she has dementia? Surely the dementia negates any sensible response from her? The respite is not for her - it's for YOU.<br/> <br/> I know how hard it ...