Just tell them, that your husband wants to be taken out, to the café,pub,whatever. If they say again they cant cope, ask what specifically is it they cant cope with? and deal with that problem. Tell them you cant afford to be providing dinners and snacks on carers allowance and its their turn now. I...

Your Mum needs to see a solicitor even though she will have to pay for assistance. I know for a fact Social Services have emergency care beds,She needs to refuse to have him home from respite and say that she's putting the house on the market, getting a divorce etc and hes not her concern anymore. T...

Thank you everyone who has replied.

I'm just going to stop doing it I think. No need for explanations.I think people realize now that lots of people don't bother or give to charity instead.

What about applying for work in charity shops or British heart foundation furniture places etc or Mind charity shops? they wont want 2 references from previous employers etc. You could do that for a month or 2 then use that reference for other work.

Hi My Mum who I care for sends about 30 cards out each xmas/birthdays to people I have either never met or seen a couple of times 40 years ago etc. If anything happens to her then I don't want that legacy. I'm not doing it full stop. Would you just send a brief note saying that she has passed and no...

It sounds like hes very depressed, would he go to the G.P? he could discuss anti depressants and counselling. I'd say to him , that I cant listen to him moaning all the time as its very draining and I would go through with him again the list of possible things to do. Is there a luncheon club near yo...

Thank you for your replies, the cellulitis has cleared up now after 2 weeks worth of antibiotics. My Mum does like the neighbour but shes a lot more tolerant than me. She never has a bad word to say about anybody ever! The neighbour isn't in mental decline I don't think, shes just self obsessed and ...

Hi I've been on here before and explained that I'm my Mums carer, she is housebound and in over 20 years has seen her brother 4x and he lives 25 minutes away! She only has me really as she wont go to a day centre or groups etc. Anyway, we have the next door neighbour who keeps coming round and offlo...

Hi OP, Sorry you are having a hard time with this I have the same with my Mums brother, my Aunt and cousin. My Mum has never done anything wrong and they have seen her 4 times in 20 years. What gets me is that she thinks they are nice people,and runs after them by doing things like sending cards and...