As in my previous thread, I'm sure I'm not alone in this situation, unfortunately. Can anyone suggest ways I can tactfully remind the care home and the staff of things that need to be done please? I'm running out of stock phrases and smiles and I'm never sure how I'm being taken anyway as people oft...

Hi Claire, I hope you were able to visit even when thought you couldn't. I've found that different staff have different ideas about the rules and what should and shouldn't happen.

Sending you love and strength.

I absolutely agree with you about training for carers / social care staff regarding specific conditions. Dementia care especially can vary so much between homes, even ones that allege they are specialists. My Dad has Parkinsons, which most homes SAY they are specialists in, but he is also totally bl...

***Apologies for the typically long post - I don't have enough brain to make it succinct at the moment*** I know I'm not alone in this situation so I'm hoping someone has some pearls of wisdom to share about it. I'm assuming (but I shouldn't really) that if you are on this forum and you have sibling...

Oh Witch Hazel, what a hideous situation?! It's hard enough when it's our blood relative or a chosen loved one. The issue of 'putting someone in a care home' is so divisive and stimulates such strong feelings in all parties. I don't think anyone ever WANTS to go in a care home, and only the most hea...

This sounds like a really difficult situation for you but as far as I'm aware, you can't be put into care for refusing someone entry who isn't doing what was agreed. It's not meant to be a way to trick you into accepting help and they shouldn't be threatening you like this - it doesn't build a cultu...

Re the kidneys - I've not heard of people being advised not to drink too much if they have kidney issues, quite the opposite, but I don't know much about it. Dad has kidney issues after a 'long lay' and had a kidney injury (which isn't an actual injury - stupid terminology!) while in hospital in Dec...

Hi Craig, I typed out a long reply and my daughter leant over to say goodnight and accidentally touched the screen losing the lot! I hope this makes sense now as I can’t remember what I said… There are a number of reasons why someone might act irrationally such mental health as you say, dementia of ...

I'm appalled that SS have kept refusing you help. I hope you've made complaints and that if you get the same SW as previously, that you can definitely ask for someone else. It may take a while (where I am in Hampshire it's about 12 weeks for a face to face assessment) but they may be able to highlig...

Hi there Uffy I'm sorry you are being dragged back into a traumatic time. I don't know much about dementia or where your mum is on the path but I do know that people with dementia can get fixated on certain things or certain aspects of events. Is there a particular part of that time that she keeps c...