Dear Jenny, Many thanks for your advice. It certainly has given me a lot to think about. I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband at such a young age, what a terrible shock it must have been for you. It's also heartbreaking to hear about your MIL and her condition. As for your advice -...

MrsAverage, I will do that. What a good idea. Best to be one step ahead.

Hi Melly 1 and Jenny, thank you for taking the trouble to read my post snd for your kind advice. For now I'm not saying anymore to my mum about getting carers because it either upsets her or it starts an argument. No I've decided to wait and see what happens. When my dad was ill he would refuse to g...

Also I've decided to rrturn to my dance classes twice each week and tell her when I want some annual leave. My mum is quite capable and can do most things. The problem is she does get tired out quickly (she suffers from angina as well as osteoarthritis) .But Mum can prepare meals and do her own pers...

Hi Jenny, Thank you very much for taking the time to reply to my post. I didn't realise that lots of elderly people don't like having carers in their home. My Dad has been assessed recently and it was agreed he would have a Carer in the morning and a Carer in the evening. The evening one said the la...

I look after my 2 elderky parents who live up the road from me. My dad was recently very ill and had to go to hospital. He is getting better and is home now. The problem is my Mum won't accept carers into her home. Oh no, she expects the two of us to do everything even the personal care for my dad. ...