May I suggest one practical thing if you do want to keep visiting? Leave the room every time your husband does. If he goes to the loo, discover you must fetch something from the car. If he is given a job to do, go and watch. That way you avoid the diatribes that start the minute you are left alone. ...

Your honesty, Pet, and that of all posters here, continues to be a help and an inspiration to me. My beloved husband died 18 months ago and I had been his carer for only a little over 2 years, but I am not coping too well and reading your experiences gives me a better perspective. Thank you.

Dear Linda I am so sorry. I have been in those shoes. Many of us will understand - we can just be here so you can say whatever you feel, or we can try to to respond if you have questions. As Melly1 says, Macmillan has much to offer or if your husband has a Specialist Nurse in his Oncology team they ...

Sorry, I can't comment on the ear ones. For DH I used a Braun Digital Stick thermometer under his arm. Obviously that gives a slightly different reading but we had time to get a baseline by doing it for several days before treatment started.

Hi Helen I am sorry about the diagnosis. Side effects of chemo vary, so if you haven't already had a leaflet explaining what your Dad might be having you could get Macmillan or your Dad's Oncology team to tell you about his particular treatment. Then you could plan for what he might need and who wil...

Hi Samantha I just wanted to say hello and I'm glad you've found the forum, although I'm sorry you need to. It's a very sad situation for you all. My caring situation was totally different, but I'm sure there are people here who can really relate to what you have written. 'Brave' sums up what we all...

Hi Helen Between us, my family could have written almost all of your post. What happens when you and your husband go on holiday? (Please don't tell me you never get to go away - if you don't, could you start right now?) The reason I am asking is that it might give you something to build on. For exam...

Hello, Bella Blue. I can’t help much with your questions as my own caring was very different. However, I do think that you could write to your mum’s doctor and tell them exactly what’s going on. They won’t be able to talk to you about her unless she gives permission, but that doesn’t stop you feedin...

Yep. It was manageable while he could leave the house (eg I’d get us consecutive appointments at the dentist and we could go in together) but once he was housebound that option disappeared.

The thing I found hard was to get one-off cover for medical appointments. Agencies seemed to want regular bookings and even the sitting service couldn’t find anyone for me. My daughter had to come (five hours travelling in each direction!) so I could go to a hospital appointment for myself. It put m...