Congratulations to you all on the baby, but yes, how sad for you, as well. I am sorry. Our first grandson was born 7 months after my beloved husband died. I cried in private then but gradually as time has gone on I have been able to explain to close family that I love grandson to bits but every mile...

When I was preparing to apply on behalf of my late husband, I found I was thinking the answer to "can he do x" was "yes, if I do y and z". I was advised to change my way of thinking to "no, not unless I do y and z" and that helped me prepare a much clearer case. (Just as a reminder to anyone in the ...

My late husband had laminated pages of pictures with captions (smallish pictures, so maybe 20 to a page) made up by the SLT. They focussed on the things he was most likely to need. You could make up something similar if your SLT won't provide them. However, it does rely on the user having the abilit...

Hi Liz I have heard before of people who are suddenly able to rouse themselves for official visitors. Were you able to speak privately during the carer's part of the assessment? If not, as well as what Anne said, and if you have not done so already, could you keep a diary for a week of all the thing...

I wasn't my Mum's carer, just an occasional substitute. However, she played games with us over the shopping. The thing is, she just wanted attention and the shopping was only an excuse. If someone did meet her requirements for shopping, the demands transferred to something else. Now, she didn't have...

Is there a hospice near you which offers bereavement support? I would say, though, my experience was that the group near me (actually run by the cancer support centre) recommended people wait to attend for about three months. Their thinking was that people would be more able to talk about their los...

Is there a hospice near you which offers bereavement support? I would say, though, my experience was that the group near me (actually run by the cancer support centre) recommended people wait to attend for about three months. Their thinking was that people would be more able to talk about their loss...

Brian it is actually a short time since your Mum died. It might feel like for ever to you, of course, but I mean not many weeks and you have already recognised the stress and lack of sleep that are still having an impact and the loss of the research focus. When a carer loses someone they do indeed l...

I think this link might have been posted on the forum before and I thought it might be useful to mention it again. A clip from a BBC programme. addressing the subject of grief is still available here https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/stories-43227108/why-grief-is-not-something-you-have-to-get-over . Bri...

I think the 'boundaries' thing only really works if you all stick to it, so you need your husband on board. I can only tell you how we did it - I hope you might find an idea in there somewhere. The family agreed and then announced which days who was going in (eg I'd get her shopping on x day, brothe...