Hi Angela, Welcome to the Forum. A very scary time for you. What type of dementia does your MIL have? Delusions are more common with some types of dementia than others and are sometimes treated by drugs. In my mum's case, she saw all sorts of things including once a children's choir in the living ro...
Hi Mia, Welcome to the Forum. I hope you find it useful. You ask where to start? Well, in my own case, with an equally stubborn mum, I contacted her GP. He then told me he could not discuss it for confidentiality reasons :roll: so I wrote him a two-page letter outlining my concerns. He then did phon...
Did anyone hear this on the radio this morning? I thought it beautiful and reminded me so much of my own mother, possibly mothers everywhere: -------------------------- Good morning, says Chris. The reason I'm not with you today is because just before I came on air my mum passed away and I needed to...
Hi ExD (and Sue), I had the same frustrating issue but sadly no answers. Sometimes I found that mum would accept it if the request came from careworkers but not from me. I do think you come to the point where there is little you can say or do that makes any difference. If it comes to a point where m...
Hi Shaz, Welcome to the Forum. I too cared for my mum with dementia. Also single with no children. Problem with that is that it all falls on us. I guess on the plus side, there are no in-laws to deal with. How are you coping at the moment? Any questions, just shout. Lots of us here have the t-shirt,...
Very sorry to hear of your loss, Anna. As with my mum, I suspect you lost "her" some time ago before her death. Nevertheless, a difficult time for you. Yes, please take caring for your dad one day at a time. We will be here for you when you want to talk.
Anne x
Sadly we do, Antonella, I could have written your posts. I second what Bowlingbun says about making mum "happy". Sadly, you have probably gone beyond that stage. It is now too late to get permission from your mum about respite care and, dare I say it, ultimately possibly nursing care. You may reach ...
Barbara, I wish I had someone like you when I was caring for my mum. My mum would have agreed with her about the taste of Fortisip but did quite like Fortijus, same nutrients but fruit juice flavours. The doctors don't often recommend it because it is more expensive but it is worth asking. You can a...
Nicola, What type of dementia does your mum have? If it is vascular dementia, the illness seems to remain stable for a while and then get worse n stages. Sadly, whatever type of dementia it is, in my mum's case, as it got worse, she was first unable to walk and then unable to toilet herself. It was ...
Sarah, sounds very much like my mum. In short, you will not convince her. She now lives in another reality. All you can do is pretend that it is the real world, as Melly suggests. I told mum that Anne was staying overnight with friends and would be back tomorrow, or that we were staying in the house...