BB, yours is the most patient, persistent voice on the forum in support of exhausted, browbeaten and undervalued carers. I too have learned a lot from your advice. ☺
Vivienne, in my opinion what the gardener is doing is abuse. Please see this link:

https://www.elderabuse.org.uk/
Hi Claire Having a child of any age with a mental illness is tough. I do feel for you. My son was diagnosed with schizophrenia over 20 years ago and we have been through some horrendous times but now, at 38, he seems to be less volatile and more amenable than he used to. He could be unempathic, mean...
Thankyou MrsA. I'm sending you a PM.
Hi Jim This is a difficult situation for you. I hope I can pass on some things I have learned looking after my son and perhaps suggest some things you may not have considered. (I don't mean to imply that you haven't thought deeply about this as I'm sure you have.) Firstly, how old is your stepson? A...
Hi Cheryl What a worry for you. You might be interested in this description of delirium on the Alzheimers website: https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/daily-living/delirium It is not always about hallucinations and such. There is a form called "hypoactive" which can be confused with depression...
Hi and welcome, OTV

Yorkshire's a big place ;) but if you are near York you might try

https://www.yorkcarerscentre.co.uk/

Best of luck!
I'm so sorry, Pet. You have been so brave to share your journey with us. This bereavement thing is horrible, isn't it?

Sending (((hugs)))
Thankyou all for your messages. They help more than you can know.
Mum had been in her care home since July last year. Lately she'd been refusing food unless it was sweet and pureed, though she was still happy to nibble the chocolates and marshmallows I brought. I was experimenting, too, with disguising Fortisip as tomato soup (bad idea - it curdles). On Sunday she...