When M moved into rented accommodation he was advised to apply for Housing Benefit, but was then told that he wouldn't be eligible for that and that he should apply for Universal Credits and part of his rent would be paid. His claim was successful, although he had to keep bringing his wages slips to...

Welcome to the forum, Sandra. Sorry to hear your husband is in hospital. It must be a very frustrating time for both of you. You've got some good advice here. I just wanted to say that a few years ago when I was in hospital without nightwear the hospital lent me a disposable nightie. Ok, not the lat...

I posted a reply to this thread, but it hasn't shown up. Welcome to the forum, Cloudygal. What age is your son? Is he keen to move into supported living? My daughter was in supported living for 11 years, but it didn't work out for her. That doesn't mean it wouldn't work for anyone. I would suggest t...

I agree with the other posters here. It would be far too unsettling for your father-in-law to be uprooted from the care home and brought back home, and confusing too with different carers coming in each day. When I was a social worker many moons ago I thought the elderly should be looked after by th...

Sorry I've neglected this thread for so long - again! I don't know if the support worker has read any of the NAS literature or not. When she first became M's support worker she told me, 'we don't usually deal with parents'! His previous support worker was much more communicative with me and also aut...

Your top priority should be your husband and your marriage. Your father is being looked after, so you shouldn't feel like you're abandoning him when you spend time with your husband. Is it difficult to reason with your father due to his tumour? I would imagine this would make it difficult to reassur...

Hi Gloria, Welcome to the forum. This must be a very difficult time for you, with your husband being in care now. A couple of suggestions I would have, once you're up to doing new things, are a lunch club - if there are any in your area - churches often run them - and U3A - University of the 3rd Age...

Yes, welcome to the forum, Trudy. I hope you find it helpful and friendly. If you feel like it, let us know a bit about yourself and your sister and how you came to be her carer. I am mum to 3 adult children on the autistic spectrum, one of whom has moved out into a flat, where he will be getting so...

Sorry, just seeing this now, Melly. I’ve seen that, thought it was very helpful. I printed it out and gave the printout to M to give to his boss’s wife, who just said everyone was different and handed the printout back to him. On several occasions M has felt under pressure to get all his work done a...

I usually put this job off until the last minute and then ring up and speak to a nice person who asks some questions and then tells me M’s tax credits are now renewed. This year I managed to get going with it yesterday, but no nice person to talk to, just a woman’s voice. I did try the online option...