Hi Barbara, Spotted your post just before I log off so a quick 'welcome to the forum'. Tell us a little more, for example what age group are you in? It's great that you support each other but do you get any breaks, either together or briefly apart from each other? Are friends and/or family in touch ...

Hi there and welcome to the forum. Sorry you haven't had a rapid reply. Sometimes there are 'quiet' nights and perhaps your readers are like me and have no experience of BP. One bit of advice which is often offered on here is to see a counsellor. This is to be able to talk about your own expectation...

Hi Carol, Sorry to hear that your husband is so poorly. You should only feel guilty if you have deliberately done something wrong which you know in advance would hurt someone else. Hardly applies in this case does it? Your husband was supported by your daughter who you must allow to 'do her bit' for...

Hi David, It sounds like you have plenty of time to complete the actual move, which is great because doing it all in one day while anxiously waiting for the ‘go ahead’ signal is very stressful and you are avoiding that. That’s a positive to go on the list of good things. Do not try to get your new f...

Hi Katrina, I went through a very similar situation in 2007 except my mum hadn’t had any falls and was still able to cope with help, aged 90. However her home was unsuitable and she was finding life more and more difficult. We discussed whether she would prefer to move into a Home where she lived or...

Hi Guy, My Mum was a large lady and she had difficulty with her commode as she couldn't put her feet flat on the floor and the seat cut into her. After trawling the internet, where there are many available, I contacted the Occupational Therapist and she arranged for a company to come and measure in ...

Hi Michael and welcome, I looked after my parents, long distance, for many years but after the death of my dad, Mum moved to a bungalow very close to my home. She was 90 and died just 11 days short of her 100th birthday. That’s a long haul and could possibly be ahead of you too. Lots of information,...

Hello and welcome, It depends a lot on how you and the family are feeling. Have you ‘had enough’, got to the ‘end of the road’, (as we all do, sooner or later)? Is it just the continence problem or has Mum gone beyond your ability to cope without drastic detriment to your own health and well being? ...

Hi Chris and welcome, I must admit I had to google that one, please forgive my ignorance. From a very quick read of a site I picked up that depending on the particular variety of EDS, there are methods of coping and life strategies. How is your partner managing the condition and what are you, as the...

Hi Chrissie, How old is Gran? I’m wondering how many years you are likely to be ‘the one who does things’ as she gets more and more needy and demanding. (As most elderly people do). She was obviously hoping that the tests would show something that could be ‘fixed’ and she would be fit and well again...