Hi Judith, Your Mum will be frightened, of losing her independence, being ‘put’ in a Home, of losing her ability to cope, of losing everything she has always know, been able to do. Things you must NOT do:- Do not promise her she will not be ‘put’ in a Home, because one day that might be the only opt...

Buy her a 'Willow Tree Angel'. (Google it, lots of varieties). If she loves it, as I do mine, then you can add to the collection. Something that lasts and has a message.

Hi Annie, I read your post like this. I loved my nan and was happy to move in with her when my Aunt died to give her some companionship, TLC and general help. In return I was promised that I would inherit the house, keep my relationship going and have my own space. What you were looking at was Nan a...

Hi Natasha. I feel for you because you shouldn’t be in this position. My immediate feeling, and please understand that I have no wish to cause offence, is that you have been ‘groomed’ from an early age to ‘take care’ of your mother. The ‘leave me’ comments are just her way of putting pressure on you...

I = Icing on the Christmas cake.

Hi Dawn, Do you think that Mum is frightened of losing the company he provides, is 'brain washed' (sorry for that awful term but can't think of another at the moment) by him, or doesn't realise that she does not have to look after him at all. I wonder if a visit to an appropriate solicitor would she...

I remember my 'stocking' was once one of my Mum's nylon stockings, left at the bottom of my bed. (Long before tights were invented).
As a small child I used to find a sixpence in the toe.
What do you remember finding 'Father Christmas' had left you when you were small?

D= Decorations

Dear Alan, My sincere sympathies on your loss. As others have said, it was a passing that we would all aspire to. In our own bed, sleeping peacefully, with a loved one having been with us a short time ago and not far away. No hospitals, no drips or fussing, no pain, no noise or weeping, just peace a...

Hi Jo, One of my family members, by marriage, is a MS sufferer as is the husband of my best friend. Even so I don’t know that much about it. What I do understand is that there are two varieties. One which gets worse progressively and the other in fits and starts. Forgive my simplification. Which ‘va...