No she hasn't got sides on her bed as she has not been assessed as a risk. She is considered to have mental capacity and I think she would still past the tests for that, but she is just so determined that if she wants to do something she will try. I rang the care agency when I got home, said I wante...

Just back from Mum in Law's ... lifeline rang just after 10pm, asking if we could go down as she was "stuck". Got there to find her bedtime carer had left the porch light on, and MIL in her independent way had tried to get out of bed to switch it off. Luckily she only managed to swing her legs out a...

Thanks both, I sympathise with the carers as they must have nightmare trying to remember every home they visit and I wouldn't want their job. Mum doesn't really help the situation as she considers what would make life easier for them, so if she gets a new girl, who as she puts it "doesn't know what ...

Hi all, Have not posted here much lately as things have settled down, Mum in Law is in a routine and most things working well. However, one niggling concern is her home carers not observing use by dates and possibly feeding her out of date food. MIL is chair bound, cannot walk at all so has 4 care v...

As I said, awaiting a call back this afternoon, but if nothing heard I will contact them again. Thank you

Thank you, I had already ready through the guidance on their page, but if you click on the "home visit" tab at the top of the link you shared, it says you can get free home visit if you are over 60 and have a physical disability. So when they turn up for her test, and find she cannot walk or stand u...

Hi all, Wondering if anyone could advise on this please? Mum in law is housebound and had a free eye test at home a couple years ago. The guy she used then was freelance and has moved away, so she has a test booked with Specsavers Home service next week. She is telling me she needs to show them her ...

I am probably being a bit pedantic in the greater scheme of things, but I am seeing more and more care plans, GP notes, case Co reviews etc, where I am being put down as main contact (fine with this) but then shown as my Mother in Law's Daughter! Much as I love her and would do anything for her .. c...

Thank you Melly. I was hoping her care providers could offer something like this, so will ask if its possible, even if she has to pay for it. We have been offered taster days at 2 different centres, one only 5 minutes from her home, but reluctant to take her there to see what she could have, and the...

GO AWAY FOR A WEEK. Then she will finally realise what you do for her when you are there. OK, she won't like it, that's tough. Many forum members have done this, and found that they were finally appreciated. Can I ask how old she is? Nature of her disability? She is 83, was very active, still doing...