Hey. I am not sure what your message was, but please be assured that many of us here. myself included have been at this point. No one here will ever judge you. It is a safe space to vent. And we ill give advice if we can. Whatever has pushed you to this brink, I hope things can improve. My situation...
Hi Tracey I think activity is the way forward. The more stimulation someone gets with memory problems the better. It can even improve memory. When Mum gave up caring for Dad she was in a dreadful state. Regular social interaction and routine have helped massively. Dementia clinic said her dementia h...
hey Dishrag - (love the name by the way, it is often how I have felt) Glad you are thinking this through. Please find that time for yourself. It is vital for your own health. If it feels daunting, start small and build up. Half an hour this week sitting in a coffee shop on your own with a magazine o...
If you are sleep deprived it is not possible to keep your calm. You need help. Have you got any care in place at the moment? Can you tell us a bit more and we will try to help? I care for my Mum with dementia. She was lone carer for my Dad for many years, the latter of which saw her severely sleep d...
Oh Pet, sorry to hear it is still a struggle. I have felt lost in the whole hospital system in the past. It often felt to me that there was no consistent answer. Dad was in for 9 months at one stage and it is hard. Just sending you strength. Keep chipping away at home and hospital. it is all you can...
I can relate. Feeling sad myself today. My Dad died in Feb after over 15 years with a progressive neurological illness. He died in a specialist nursing home where he was wonderfully cared for by specialist staff. But he always wanted to come "home" and blamed me, myself and my sister for his being t...
Please feel proud of all you have done and are doing, not guilty about what you can't do. You sound like a lovely person. Please look after yourself too, it is really important. If someone is doing the physical care for Dad it frees up sometime to spend "nice" time with him, but this doesn't have to...
I am so sorry to hear that. You feel numb because it is just the only way your mind and body can probably cope at the moment to get on and do what needs to be done. PLEASE don't try to do it all. Great that you have care in, get more if needed. Make sure you get enough rest so you can enjoy what pre...
Please don't panic. It sounds as though you acted in good faith. You won't go to prison as this is in no ones best interests and not intentional fraud. I don't know whether you will have to pay back in a lump sum, but as your income isn't large, I am sure that if that would be difficult they will ac...
I think be brutal and say that as you were doing the lions share of the caring then she opted out of the right to an opinion. if she felt robbed of your Mum's home to visit her in she should have visited or done more to keep her there. Was she willing to move in?? I suspect not! I think other people...