I note you've already written to the local authority. Anyone working with vulnerable adults needs to be vetted first. If proved, the "carer" could be summarily dismissed for gross misconduct and the agency will have its safeguarding policies and procedures scrutinised thoroughly too. Such a situatio...

I spent most of Friday in meetings/conversations/complaints with NHS and CCG staff trying to work out which direction leads out of the crazy maze. I am no wiser but have very clearly seen at least one shameless health "professional" lying through their teeth. It's like being trapped in dystopian ver...

Thanks, Chris and BB, as always you raise very good points. If we were to go down the Discharge to assess route, I think the CCG has to do so within a certain time frame. 28 days? No doubt that is rarely adhered to. Mum is currently bed-blocking (although after one failed discharge they haven't put ...

Developments: I went to see a nursing home today. It's down the road, very new, friendly, well-appointed, good facilities, big rooms, good range of activities, in an area Mum has always fancied living. Cheaper than the posh one Mum originally fancied. QUESTION Should I hold out for CHC assessment an...

You understand the problem, Mrs Average.
I spoke to the care agency today and that was v informative. Their staff find it easier to care for people who are bedridden rather than the walking wobbly. Not surprising really.

Right. So I wrote formally to the hospital via PALS and delivered letter by hand to the office just now. Then I popped up to see Mum and delivered various bits of happy news. She always looks extremely comfortable and content, propped up in bed in a pretty nightie reading yet another book. A nursing...

Thanks so much, BB.
V helpful.
You're right. Shall follow your advice. I guess it is tricky in that Mum seems, in many ways, still to be compos mantis. She will blame me if I'm the one who points out the need for nursing home. But actually, its not my fault!

Thanks for the link,Chris. It's definitely a complex discharge, not a routine one. I've just found the Decision Support Tool from her last discharge meeting and, in my opinion, she now scores x5 high priority and 3 medium. (2 low, 2 none). Previously they scored her 2H, 2M, 3L and 4N Should I be get...

Yuk, BB! Update: Mum is still in hospital on an elderly care ward. I met bedside with her neuro consultant and specialist nurse yesterday and the former said that Mum's 'impulsivity' is part of her neuro condition. " A balance is needed between her autonomy and safety." Yesterday she couldn't get ou...

Look Faye, we all have limits of endurance and it sounds as though you've reached yours. No-one can function for long without sleep. Ring your GP tell them you need help asap(your own health is at risk). Maybe the Carers' UK advice line? Age UK? If desperate phone the Samaritans. Talk to someone. Po...