Right. So I wrote formally to the hospital via PALS and delivered letter by hand to the office just now. Then I popped up to see Mum and delivered various bits of happy news. She always looks extremely comfortable and content, propped up in bed in a pretty nightie reading yet another book. A nursing...

Thanks so much, BB.
V helpful.
You're right. Shall follow your advice. I guess it is tricky in that Mum seems, in many ways, still to be compos mantis. She will blame me if I'm the one who points out the need for nursing home. But actually, its not my fault!

Thanks for the link,Chris. It's definitely a complex discharge, not a routine one. I've just found the Decision Support Tool from her last discharge meeting and, in my opinion, she now scores x5 high priority and 3 medium. (2 low, 2 none). Previously they scored her 2H, 2M, 3L and 4N Should I be get...

Yuk, BB! Update: Mum is still in hospital on an elderly care ward. I met bedside with her neuro consultant and specialist nurse yesterday and the former said that Mum's 'impulsivity' is part of her neuro condition. " A balance is needed between her autonomy and safety." Yesterday she couldn't get ou...

Look Faye, we all have limits of endurance and it sounds as though you've reached yours. No-one can function for long without sleep. Ring your GP tell them you need help asap(your own health is at risk). Maybe the Carers' UK advice line? Age UK? If desperate phone the Samaritans. Talk to someone. Po...

Hi Faye, The Discharge nurse at Community hospital suggested a "falls detector" at the meeting where Mum was deemed ineligible for CHC funding. Mum was discharged to home, alone. 26 hours later she had a fall. I was 200 miles away driving up the motorway so the careline people had to ring paramedics...

Yes I am a clapped-out carer! Ha! One among many.
I'm not taking one more clean nighty to hospital and I'm not doing one more load of hospital-bag laundry either.

I've read all your posts, Chris, and my own experience bears out what you say. It's political short-termism of the most damaging kind, people who care for family-members with long-term health needs go on to develop unnecessary ill-health themselves. Recognising that "compassion fatigue" is 'a thing'...

Yes,good point about safety, that is my main concern She had a wrist-careline and also a "falls detector" and the system worked well. She cannot mobilise without assistance but decided to walk somewhere unaided (for the first time in 2months!) Then fell. She told A&E doctor that she walks about unai...

So, complaint via PALS establishes 1) that discharge from community hospital was unsafe 2) that another CHC checklist will be done (surely leading to full assessment?) 3) care agency on standby (very expensive standby) I have read the CHC bumph but categories under areas of need on the Decision Supp...