Thanks for your prompt reply as usual Bowling....don't think she'll qualify for continuing care.....I've explained numerous times to them that I simply don't have the funds to cover the top up ...apparently Mum will legally be able to take on her top fees if the payment is deferred according to said...

Hope someone can give me some advice on my Mums care home costs....we have a house to sell and I have POA for finance but we have asked for deferred payments to allow us some time to sell the house....the care home where Mum was placed from the hospital and where she's been since 14th December 2020 ...

Thank you Melly... I remember reading your posts hope you're doing OK in these very strange times. This is a very strange time for me I have gone from having no time at all for myself....flitting between the two properties and trying my level best to keep everyone as happy abd cared for as I could.....

Hi folks I used to frequent this site on a regular basis some years ago.....I started in the caring role in 2003 when my dad had a serious brain bleed and survived...he came home severely disabled in 2004 and passed away in 2013 and my choice then was to give up my day job to help Mum look after him...

Oh how I love you guys I don't post much but I very often pop on for reassurance and you certainly give it ...thank you ladies xxxxx

Yes there is a keysafe and I haven't left any valuables at Mums for years..... carers came this morning to sort all the paperwork and details and I have been TOLD by my family that I must recharge my batteries and leave them to it....did have the doctor visit today after telling them i wasn't happy ...

No Jenny don't live with Mum but feel as though I might as well do at the moment xx

I knew you'd be able to help BB...Social Worker said that because she own her home she would have to pay for care out of her AA but we have a finance guy coming after Christmas to sort all that out ...first few weeks are free apparently...I was 61 in September xx

Thank you all for your replies as ever I am so grateful ......We had a lovely Social Worker come out this afternoon and of course Mum said point blank "NO THANK YOU" to " a temporary stay in a convalescence home" lovely way the lady put it to her... and although she said she can clearly see that Mum...

I'm not new and some of you may remember me I joined whilst I was caring for my Dad post stroke in 2003 we lost him in 2013 but sadly during his period at home Mum was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia (2007)...it hasn't been at all easy as Mum can be quite stroppy at times but we've managed to muddl...