Dear Agnes You should feel proud of the love and care you gave your mum. I do understand that you feel you should have been with your mum when she passed, but she wanted to spare you that moment. Your mum knew you loved her, that's what matters. My mum passed away in a nursing home. She waited until...

Hi Pam My husband had COPD for many years and I don't think it changed his personality at all. Unfortunately he suffered from Vascular Dementia in later years and that did change his personality. I was lucky in that My husband always knew who I was. I would try not to worry about what might happen a...

Hi. My Mum had a serious stroke and came to live with me. In her case she was transferred from the original hospital to a cottage hospital near to me. We were under different authorities. Mum's care plan was arranged in the second hospital. This was three years ago. I looked after Mum with some help...

Hi, I do understand your concerns and if you do feel the carer's is acting in a way that you feel uncomfortable with maybe you could speak to her privately about your concerns. Has she always acted in the same manner?. My husband had vascular dementia and had always been a very tactile person. His c...

Can we have Bruce Springsteen- Waitin(g) on a Sunny Day, great lyrics !!!

My husband has been on palliative care for nearly 2 years. He has severe dementia and copd. The one observation I would make is that we no longer see a palliative care nurse, really because my husband is taking longer than expected to die. So try to keep contact with patients. I do feel that I have ...

I would like to agree with the above posts. BB you are not hard as nails. You are sensible, kind, practical and helpful to so many forum members. You and Jenny gave me such useful advice when I was caring for my mum and husband.

Sorry I don't know about any sensation being felt. My husband has vascular dementia and he doesn't really talk very much now, but hasn't indicated any pain or discomfort, only when catheter changed. At least your Dad has no infection and the doctor came out which is good.

My husband who is 85 has had a catheter for 2 years. He in increasingly getting a similar problem. Used to go normal 12 weeks and would have catheter replaced. Recently he gets some bypass, some urine in the bag and then all works ok for a few days. I wonder i the urethra has become stretched with i...

My mum had a stroke at 80, it meant she lost the use of her right side. Mum was in hospital for 3 months with very little physio, really concentrated on her speech, which recovered very well. Mum came to live with me and we had OTs and physios in for about 6 months, she didn't recover her mobility b...