Hi, My friend's Nan has been in a care home with dementia for some time now- she sold her house to pay for her care fees and, from what my friend told me, there is a cap on when the resident stops paying for their care and social services/CHC take over the fees (I'm not sure what this cap is, but I ...

Hi and I am so sorry for the loss of your Nan, thank you for replying and I can feel the sadness in this. Not only the loss but the thoughtlessness of everyone throughout. I think there are a million ways people could help and yet there are a million ways people make things worse. I get sofa thing ...

Hi Alison, My Gran had Motor Neurone Disease and I was her family carer during this time. I too experienced the same as you, in that there were so many friends and family members who either didn't show their faces at all or 'acted' like they were helping and being so supportive when all they were do...

Hi OnTheVerge, Thank you for your kind advice :) Personally, I find it easier to be at work after someone close to me has died. When my Mum died a couple of years ago, I was back in work the morning after the evening I found out she'd died. Similar this time around- Gran died on the Friday and I was...

Thank you all for your supportive words. After the initial tears, I'm now feeling quite numb (I know that's normal, though it's freaking me out that I'm not crying my eyes out all the time, as I thought I would be). I'm back at work today and everyone is being very supportive, which is a massive hel...

It's been a while since I last posted. I am now a 'former carer'. My Gran passed away yesterday afternoon. I got there 5 minutes too late. She had other family members with her when she passed and I'm told she just calmly slipped away. I am very grateful for that. Now, I have to face the horrible, i...

Hi Chrissie (I'm Chrissie, too!) My Gran has MND- diagnosed in March last year, but showing symptoms from the March before that. She is very close to the end of the disease now (she refused a PEG and breathing assistance). She can no longer swallow any liquid without choking/coughing and spluttering...

I agree with BB- this sounds remarkably like a neurological issue. Please get it checked by the doctor.

Hi Ryan, You're the same age as me and I'm in a similar situation to you. The answer to your question is 'I keep getting up because the alternative is more permanent than the current situation'. Practical Solutions: - Insist on outside help for Mum (doesn't have to be every day and doesn't even have...

Thanks for your lovely comments, you've actually only had about half the story! In total I've had TEN carees, from newborn to 87. You name it, they've probably had it, dementia, bowel cancer, prostate cancer, pancreatic cancer, heart disease, angina.... When mum was in the nursing home she had a Cr...