In that case, he may visit the gardens himself when he isn't working if he wishes to say goodbye. Melly1 Doubtful, unfortunately- my Mum (his sister) is scattered in one of the other gardens in the same crematorium and he's never been once in the 3 years since she passed. I think he was just lookin...

Melly1 wrote: ↑

Tue Jun 23, 2020 11:20 am

Maybe.

Where are you having the ceremony and scattering her ashes?

Melly1

It's going to be in the gardens of the crematorium where we held her funeral- sticking to her wishes

Hi Melly,

Thank you for your reply- it makes me feel better to know that I've done the right thing by standing my ground.

Having sat and thought about it last night, I think he never intended to come and is using his work schedule as an excuse to 'get out of having to go'.

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